The Truth Is I Haven’t Always Been So Positive

DannyAbout once per week I’ll get an email asking me how I maintain such a positive attitude. And I get enough of these emails to make me believe people view me as being a positive person, although, I don’t view myself as a positive person.  The truth is I haven’t always been so positive.

In 2007 I began working for Dick’s Sporting Goods as a PGA Professional.  My job was to manage the golf shop staff, keep the shop stocked with the appropriate types of merchandise, inventory and maintain customer service levels.  For anyone who has worked retail, this short story should register with you.

I worked that job and dealt with customers throughout the store; there were good days and there were really bad days.  And as the years moved forward the really bad days began to outnumber the good days 10 to 1.  Customers in retail are vicious.  They complain constantly.  They drop trash on the floors.  They spill things and use merchandise to cover up the spill.  They leave used condoms in the fitting rooms.  They make messes in the bathrooms that you could never imagine (especially the women’s room!).  They scream, yell and blame the staff for ruining their child’s Christmas.

The list goes on and on.

Dealing with the public turned me into a person who didn’t want to be around people outside of work.  So I began to resent other humans.  I began to hate being around other people.  I saw the worst in humanity and expected people to be awful.  I became a negative person.

Then came 2013 and my retail career ended.  Unfortunately, my negative attitude did not.  It would take me another year or more to eventually purge myself of those negative tendencies and find “Danny’ again.  It was such hard work.  Every day I had to focus on finding the good in people and expecting good things to happen.  I had to go through a complete revolution of my mind to exorcise the negative demons.

It was a long fight, but it was worth it.  I no longer maintain that nasty, negative attitude and I am happy now that people email me asking how I stay so positive.  It’s a great reminder to me that people can change if they want to change.

Here Are 10 Things I Stopped Doing That Made Me Happier

Danny's iphone 022A few years back I made some drastic changes.  In 2013 I decided enough-was-enough and I went through a revolution of my mind and habits.  Here are a few of the things that I stopped doing which made me a happier person:

  1. I stopped blaming others for my underachieving.
  2. I stopped complaining
  3. I stopped comparing myself to others
  4. I stopped trying to be right all the time
  5. I stopped talking to myself like I was a villain
  6. I stopped allowing myself to make excuses
  7. I stopped watching television
  8. I stopped allowing my mind to be limited
  9. I stopped wishing for change
  10. I stopped waiting on life to happen for me

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There’s still time to change the road you’re on. Choose to see the light, choose to be happy. Move forward with Love in your heart and determination of the mind.

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Have a blessed day all. ❤

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Turning Negatives Into a Garden 2

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It’s been a few weeks since the first post about turning some of the negatives I have been dealing with into something positive. I am still struggling physically and with speech or finding words. It has…

5 Ways to Create an Optimistic Attitude

Every article and post giving tips on learning to become more positive has had “be grateful” as one of the first items listed. I guess that must be important…

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Every morning as you prepare for the day you face a simple choice: how are you going to accept the big and the small obstacles that you encounter during the day? Will you let these challenges become impossible obstacles or will you think like an optimist and turn them into opportunities?

Optimism is the tool you need, and the good news is that it can be developed. To engage your optimism, you need to mature the ability to pause for a moment when you encounter an obstacle. During that pause, begin to reframe what you’re seeing. Learn how to see an obstacle as an opportunity. Optimism isn’t a gift you’re born with—you develop it with practice and eventually you will become an authentic optimist, ready for any opportunity.

Consider these 5 ways an optimistic…

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Choose to be Happy

Live Free, Live Healthy believes your attitude is your choice and I agree wholeheartedly! Another great post showing us that you must make the effort to focus your mind on the positives of life and minimize the negatives.

Live Free, Live Healthy

Every single day. No matter if the temperature has dropped down to 37, if the cat bit your toe while you got dressed in the dark at 5AM, if you spilled hot chocolate down the front of your white blouse, if your bedroom window has a draft, if your coworker doesn’t save you a spot at the lunch table—you make the choice, in every moment of every day, to be happy.

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A Note on Positivity

Taking time to be grateful and thankful is one practice that will help you become a more positive minded person. BalancedAmes is leading by example!!

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Good morning and happy Thursday!

This morning I woke up feeling so thankful. Night-shift really has a way of making me appreciate things that I never really thought about before: sleeping by my husband, waking up at a “normal time”, being able to say goodbye to Drew before he goes to work, watching the morning news, and eating breakfast at breakfast time. Since my husband doesn’t believe in heat until November 1st (it’s 58 degrees in our house), I turned on the fireplace and I’m posted up in front of it until I go to workout. All in all, a wonderful morning.

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The feelings of happiness and thankfulness this morning have me thinking: very simple things made me feel this way. Small things can upset us (just go down your Facebook feed), so shouldn’t we also let small things make us happy? Maybe we can start paying more attention to…

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Make the choice

Don’t be misled, your attitude is your decision! YOU decide to be negative or YOU decide to be positive. It is 100% a choice! We could all learn from Planting Positivity!!

Planting Positivity

Working in a service industry (photography) can sometimes make it easy for me to complain.

I recently had a client claim they were thrilled with the photos I sent to them, only to turn around and nit-pick one image, asking for me to provide them with a different shot, and to edit a whole slew of things on it that I hadn’t seen as an issue visually.

I immediately felt a flush of heat to my face when I got the email from my client… I was angry for about five minutes, and then I realized that my main goal as a photographer is to make my clients happy through the images I can provide them with. I had a decision to make: tell the client, “Sorry, that’s the image I chose to edit and per your contract that’s all you get.” Or, go ahead and put two hours of…

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Becoming a More Positive Person

Reflect and Refresh gives some great insight and tips to changing your mindset to be more positive. The last sentence deals with something I have said before: volunteering will change your mindset.

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Sometimes life will serve us all with conditions that may seem impossible to think positively about, but this is almost rarely the case.

I know this because within three months of each other, both of my childhood dogs and my music teacher, who was also a close family friend, passed away.

However, in the midst of school resuming, I had no time to devote to truly getting over these things, and depression and anxiety soon dominated my life.

I began to see a therapist because I knew I wasn’t feeling up to par, and she’s taught me how to change my negative thought patterns and to put things into perspective.

We could all stand to be more positive, so here are some tips for doing just that the next time you start to see a little too much of Holden Caulfield in yourself.

#1. Observe.

The first step in becoming a more…

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