Do You Think It Is Time For Me To Build an Ark?


Do You Think It Is Time For Me To Build an Ark?

Hurricane Florence dumped over 12 inches of rain on us in a 24 hour period, but we are alive and well.  Flooding in our area was minimal and we only lost 1 tree, which surprised me.  In all my life I have never experienced rain quite like that and I hope I never do again.

The storm has moved north of Charlotte leaving us with a slight chance of thunderstorms this afternoon.  My coworkers and friends in Wilmington and New Bern are not so fortunate.  It is still raining there and flood waters have cut both cities off from rescue workers.  I hope everyone is safe.

In some ways I think we would have been better off with the powerful winds of a fast-moving hurricane than the rains associated with a storm only moving 5 mph.  The rain has been simply devastating for North Carolina.  Fayetteville, Kinston, Jacksonville, New Bern and Wilmington are all experiencing flooding.

I did not get a chance to build my ark before the storm decided to move north so maybe next time.  Please have a safe Monday and considering donating water and supplies to help these good people.


My Absence Explained..Sorta. Dealing With Florence

Spiritual Dragonfly

It seems I’ve been neglecting my WP Blog and those I follow the last few weeks. Quite honestly, I’ve been feeling/dealing with a shift of sorts. I know the fact that I’m coming up on Jim’s 2 year Angelversary is a part of it. My emotional state of being is all over the place right now……..I’ve found ‘my tribe’ so to speak in a widow/widowers MeetUp group from Raleigh. Through the group I’m making friends who get it and fully understand the ups and downs of this journey…….the cool and exciting thing is I’m helping them as much and they’re helping me. I’m exploring the possibility of setting up a writing therapy session amongst us and our weekly coffee/lunch dates…these thoughts and ideas are still in their infancy, but I’m excited about them……


Now, as some of you may know, I moved here to North Carolina 17 months ago. We’re…

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On A Weather Break, Be Back Soon

Reclaiming HOPE

Hi Everyone!

I’d like to apologize for my absence from not only my blog, but yours. We have some family members who evacuated ahead of Hurricane Florence staying with us. They’ve been here since Tuesday, and things around here are quite chaotic and stressful. I hope they’ll be able to return home and things will return to normal soon.

I just wanted pop in quickly to explain my absence and let you know I’ve been thinking of you. I miss being in touch with all of you! I hope to be back to my regular posting schedule by next week.

This experience has really reminded me of something this week. As you know, my blog is about thriving, not just surviving, with fibromyalgia. The truth is, though, that sometimes all you can do at certain times is go into survival mode and get through whatever you’re trying to get through.


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Hurricane Florence Update 2: Pineville, NC

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Quite a few people have emailed asking if Evelina and I were safe so I thought I’d post a quick update.

It is still raining heavy and steady.  The winds are picking up considerably at around 25 mph.  We have not had damage nor have we lost power (knock on wood), but the creeks and drains are all maxed out and I fear flooding is inevitable.

This morning I drove to our local bakery and decided to explore a bit to see how the rest of town looks.  The roads are passable, but I can see that changing by tomorrow.  I’ve never seen this much rain for such as extended period of time.

Monday and Tuesday will reveal a lot as the water from the mountains fill the remainder of the waterways.

For now all is well and hope you are safe in your part of the world.


Why Should Anyone Care About Your Blog Posts?


Why Should Anyone Care About Your Blog Posts?

On occasion I’ll get someone email me and ask how to get more eyes on their posts.  The common belief is that if more people see my posts, then they will view and more views will create more buzz and buzz will get me followers.  I disagree completely and here’s why…

The concept of mass exposure is an old idea.  In the old days companies had limited avenues through which to deliver their message-newspaper, radio, television, etc.  The marketing concept was to throw a giant blanket over a gigantic population base and see what results might come.  The other change in message delivery relates to the expectation of the recipients.  Today’s consumer is much more educated and more inundated with content.  The online world is flooded with too many messages from so many sources to the point that people have become somewhat blind to any messages at all.

Today’s marketing is different and bloggers must think differently.  In today’s market the focus is on relevancy and until you understand this key you will continue to struggle.  If a message is not relevant to the population, then people simply will not care.  If people don’t care, then they will not buy your message; they will not consume your product.  And it is this fact that most bloggers miss.

The truth is you don’t need the masses of asses.  You need specific followers who care about the types of topics of which you write.  If you write about being a vegetarian, then your ideal reader is going to be someone who is already a vegetarian or someone who is considering becoming a vegetarian.  Carnivores who are dead-set in their ways might read a single article, but they are probably not going to return each day to read your content.  So maybe a more strategic and effective plan will be to find other vegetarians.

This might seem like common sense, but I see this common failure in thinking everyday in business.  Business owners who want more customers think they need everyone and this is false.  They need the right “ones” as I like to say.  You need loyalty not one-time purchases.  You want people who return time after time to consume what it is that you are selling.

And it is the same with a blog.  Ask yourself, “Who is the person who is more apt to return each day to read what it is that I write?”.  Once you find that person then you need to find more of those types and build a loyal tribe.  If you produce quality content and put it in front of the right types of people, then you will have the highest likelihood of converting them into following you.  If they are not, then you have to judge your content.

Remember, people engage because they believe the same things you believe.

Some have also asked me about my tribe.  My tribe is made up of bloggers who are looking to connect with others so I created a “hub” where people on WordPress could meet others and possibly connect in order to grow their page.  It is a mutually symbiotic relationship.  A sub-set of my tribe is made up of people who are interested in growing personally and professionally which is why I post about my personal experiences of reaching my goals.  I seek out people interested in personal growth.  I have followers I’ve met via other personal development blogs.  I have followers who found me through personal growth pages on Facebook.  And I have followers who discovered my page via my SEO tactics on search engines.

The change in ideology needed is understanding your ideal audience which means you must get specific, not general.  Why would you spend your time advertising home owner’s insurance to people who do not own homes versus advertising to people who currently own a home?   The easier and more likely conversion is to current home owners.  Does anything I’m saying make sense?

A wrestling blog will be comprised mainly of people who enjoy wrestling.  A knitting blog will be comprised of people who are interested in knitting.  A cooking blog will be comprised mainly of people who enjoy cooking and recipes.

You can spend all of your energy trying to get people who don’t care to care.  And the risk is that those people might never care and you will be left with an empty energy tank.  Why not  find people who are already interested in what it is that interests you and then connect?

Just a thought…


Stuffed Chicken Parmesan – Flavor Smasher Happy Thursday everyone! I hope your week was great, and your weekend is even greater. I do apologize for not posting a video last week. Things have been quite hectic and I am still a little

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Colors (haiku)


Far away from you
Is to be blue my dearest
I wait; purple heart .


Stunning photos of my garden back home; they have survived the current storm.

In response to CalmKate’s Friday Foto Fun:

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These Are Just a Few of the Pet Peeves I Hate


These Are Just a Few of the Pet Peeves I Hate…

I try not to use the word hate, but in this instance it is accurate because it is aimed at actions not people.  At any rate, here are a few of my pet peeves…

  1.  Waving people on in traffic instead of just following the rules of the road.  When it is my turn to go, I will go.  When it is your turn to go, you go.  You are not doing me a favor by waving me on.  You are actually creating unnecessary chaos.  The rules of the road are in place so you don’t have to hand signal someone to take action.
  2. Talking on the phone when checking-out at a store.  I find it incredibly rude to continue a conversation on the phone while checking out at a store.  Show respect to the cashier and give them your undivided attention.
  3. Not returning an email the same day.  We live in a world in which information is so readily available and most often available on the mobile device that we carry in our pockets.  It takes 30 seconds to respond to most emails, not 24 hours.
  4. Entering a building through the exit door.  This absolutely drives me crazy.  The door on the right is for entry.  The door on the left is for those exiting.  USE THE APPROPRIATE DOOR!
  5. Leaving the shopping buggy/trolley in the parking lot instead of returning it to the cart return.  No elaboration needed.
  6. The use of velvet hangars.
  7. Laundry that is left sitting in the dryer instead of immediately folded.

These are a few of my pet peeves.  Leave me some of your peeves in the comments.