Sometimes we adoptees are straight up assholes!

Lifting Taboos

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Everything has to do with adoption and at the same time, nothing has to do with adoption. It’s one of those weird concepts where you know that part of who you are is made up of what the adopters tried to make you, and the other part is your nature.

I believe it is everything and nothing.

I’ve met many adoptees but most of them have been online. And as much as I would like to blame some of their behavior on adoption, I have to be real with myself and with them that it may not actually be just adoption that made you into an asshole.

I was working closely with one adoptee who was great in the beginning. So nice, so sweet, so funny. And then something just changed. I started backing away a bit because I felt something was not quite right. Some things this person said…

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A Quick Update For Those Who Are Interested

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A Quick Update For Those Who Are Interested…

For those of you who saw my post last week, I had to go to the doctor due to some digestive issues and was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis.  Simply stated, UC is a condition close to, but not the same as, Crohn’s Disease.

The day after my diagnosis Evelina and I immediately cleaned our cupboards and began to completely restructure our diet.

And before I get too deep I want to say a huge thank you to all of you who PM’d me on Facebook, emailed and commented with words of support.  It means a ton to me and I don’t take you for granted.

I have to be careful in my food choices as anything with a lot of fiber content cause intense stomach pains.  At times the pain feels like tons of stabs in my stomach.  Thus far I have discovered I can have eggs, enriched yellow grits and enriched White Mountain bread from Publix.  For lunch I’m eating chicken breast with zero spices and a baked potato without the skin.  Dinner usually involves fish with avacado and cabbage or something similar.

You can see the list of what I cannot eat here.

This food change is going to be a huge challenge, but things could be worse.  After two weeks I must admit my palette is changing already and things that tasted bland before are tasting great now.  The other eye-opening experience has been exposure to the under-world of dairy substitutes.  I had no idea that there were so many non-dairy food types.  Holy cow!

Last night we tried gluten-free taco wraps with fish, avacado and cabbage slaw using a gluten-free mayo.  The wraps were so bad we will be returning those to the store.  And as you guessed, we ate our fish tacos without taco shells; which sucked.

Last week I had an appointment with a client to discuss his company’s marketing campaign and we decided to take a break and grab lunch.  I decided to have grilled shrimp with no spice and a baked potato and the shrimp killed me.  So needless to say shrimp is off my list for now and unfortunately that is how I figure out what I can and cannot eat.

Eventually I hope to come up with 3-4 food options for each meal of the day, but until then eggs, grits, chicken and baked potatoes it is.  Hope everyone has a great Saturday!

Danny

My Most Recent Health Scare Is No Joke

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My Most Recent Health Scare Is No Joke…

It has been just over a week since I wrote anything and there is a good reason.  On Monday, 4/16, I had to have a colonoscopy conducted to check out some digestive issues I’ve been having for a couple months.  I thought I had some type of infection or bacteria due to some of my symptoms.

Once the procedure was over and they eliminated the possibility of cancer, I was informed that I have an incurable form of colitis, which is an infection of the large intestine.

The frustrating part of this deal is that I must manage the condition through my diet and the food restrictions are intense.  For instance, I cannot eat the following:

  • breads
  • cereals
  • pastas
  • noodles
  • macaroni
  • brown rice
  • quinoa
  • buckwheat
  • oats
  • wild rice
  • walnuts
  • hazelnuts
  • pecans
  • cashews
  • almonds
  • macadamia nuts
  • peanuts
  • pistachios
  • sesame seeds
  • flax seeds
  • millet
  • pine nuts
  • sunflower seeds
  • pumpkin seeds
  • wild rice
  • all beans, including chickpeas
  • adzuki beans
  • soy nuts, including soybeans and edamame
  • raw fruit
  • dried fruit
  • fruit that has seeds that can’t be removed (like most berries)
  • vegetables that have a skin
  • veggies that have seeds
  • raw veggies
  • dairy
  • corn
  • sulfides or sulfates
  • anything containing gluten
  • caffeine

And these are just a few of the things we have discovered thus far.  My doctor tells me that I’ll spend the next few months eating things in order to discover if it causes a flare up.  If it does then it goes on the banned list.

As you imagine I simply cannot eat out and if I do I have to eat plain chicken breast and green beans.

This is going to be an enormous challenge.  Evelina does our grocery shopping and it takes forever because we have to read every single ingredient on anything we buy.  A couple nights ago we went to Whole Foods and bought $50 worth of groceries.  That took us over an hour.  I guess what I’ll have to do is find the top 10 things I like and can eat and just stick to those to speed up this process.

All-in-all things could be worse I suppose.  I don’t have cancer which is an obvious relief, but the thought of dealing with this for the remainder of my life is a bit of a let-down to be quite honest.

Danny

Circulatory issues possibly Raynaud’s Syndrome

Circulatory issues possibly Raynaud’s Syndrome on Multiple experienceS | So I went to the podiatrist. As soon as he looked at my feet the first words he said…

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If There Were Olympics For Chronic Illness

Being Lydia!

The Winter Olympics are just about over and I have been enjoying many of the events from the relative comfort of my recliner.

In a few weeks, Korea will be hosting the Paralympic Games for athletes with various physical abilities. These games are just as challenging as the original games and the athletes are just as talented as their able-bodied counterparts.

I got to wondering what the games would look like for those of us with chronic health problems. I am not talking tongue in cheek here so please bear with me for a bit.

First of all, each participant would be given a gold medal for taking part in the games. After all, that is sometimes more than we can handle. All medals would be gold because of the great effort competing would take.

Secondly, there would not be a host city as few of us can travel any…

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New Year, New Problems

Tessa Can Do It! Positivity is Catching!

Bankruptcy is ongoing. All these holidays putting things off. I have given two banks the lawyers info.

My Amazon account was hijacked. Doesn’t look like anything was purchased. They got in and changed my email address and password. Their computer techs were able to lock my account and sent me to a page to  change it. Canceled any orders if there were any that weren’t processed. Recent viewings weren’t mine. Seems to be changed now and working under my email address.

I couldn’t have my last lumbar epidural so just was able to schedule one for 4 weeks, The pain is tremendous. Have no choice but to wait. Hopefully won’t have to cancel this one.

Tessa – advocate for mental health and invisible illnesses, also devout Christian

Author – http://www.finallyawriter.wordpress.com (this blog contains my old work), new work is on this blog http://www.tessacandoit.com

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I needed to try new recipes this week now that I joined weight watchers again. It is difficult to be vegan on weight watchers and staying fully vegan might come to an end, but that’s for…

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The ABC’s of Remaining Optimistic When You Just Aren’t Feeling It

If you are experiencing chronic pain, read then post!!!!

Reclaiming HOPE

ABCs of Remaining Optimistic

The last couple of weeks have been tough — a monster headache last week, and this week, I had the worst fibro flare I’ve had in a long time. I’ve spent all week just trying to get through each day. On days like these, it’s really hard to feel very optimistic, but one of the building blocks of my HOPE plan is optimism, so I need to find a way to be optimistic even if I don’t feel it.

Why would optimism be important to living well with chronic pain. or any chronic illness for that matter? The definition of optimism on Dicitionary.com is this: “a disposition or tendency to look on the more favorable side of events or conditions and to expect the most favorable outcome.” I’m not talking about unicorns and glitter here — I’m talking about feeling that I can do something to improve the way I…

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The Finite Difference Between Acute and Chronic

Being Lydia!

I still remember the first thing said at my two-month pain clinic. This could be partly due to the fact I took it twice (due to my father’s passing); however, it is mostly because of the impact that it made on all of us.

“You are not here for us to help you get rid of your pain. If that was possible, you wouldn’t be here. We are here to help you manage that pain and have a better life in spite of it.”

Acute pain is what you get when you break a leg, have a headache or need your appendix removed. It is there to warn you of some danger or issue that needs to be looked after. When you put your hand on something hot you feel burning pain and usually remove it pretty quickly so you do not get severely burned. This is your brain receiving…

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