I didn’t intend on posting again today but one of my favorite authors posted something to her IG that sparked something I had to share. As you see above, this author is Bernice McFadden and this is her sharing the rejection letters she received for her novel Sugar. I have this book as well as her novels This Bitter Earth, Glorious and I’d like to get my hands on Nowhere is a Place and The Book of Harlan but I digress. Needless to say, the writing is on point. Long story short, you all know that Sugar has gone on to do very well despite the 75 (yes, seventy-five…let that settle) rejection letters. For Indie Authors, we may not be looking for publishers, but we have rejection letters too. I want to encourage you not to give up when you get one:
I have written goals. I believe those with written goals achieve more than those who do not. I also know that my friends and associates who have written goals make more money than those who do not. Simply put…people who have a plan are more successful than those who don’t. Some will argue against this statement, but that is not the point of this post. My point is that I need to re-write my goals for my professional life.
I’ve gotten a bit lazy in my professional life. Now this is not to say I am lazy as I probably work harder than most people in sales. But my goals are not to be life everyone else; I want to be elite and elite status requires elite effort. Lately I have noticed my effort has been ordinary and complacent.
So I will spend the next week rethinking where I want to be and how much I want to make. The most important reason I have written goals is to make sure I am comparing myself to my potential and not comparing myself to others. I must aim for the highest bar and lose sight of what others are doing.
I’d be curious to know your thoughts on written goals. Why do you or why don’t you write goals down?
I took a much-needed bike ride today in the cool morning breeze and stopped to see a tortoise crossing the bike trail. The Park Ranger dutifully guarded the little guy as he slowly ambled his way across the trail, making sure cyclists didn’t accidentally run him over.
I hadn’t planned to post for the Weekly Photo Challenge today, but I couldn’t resist sharing this fleeting moment in time for the theme of Evanescent.
I was talking to my mom the other day. She asked me how things were going and we were talking about some of the difficulties with daily activities and ways we have adapted.
I mentioned to her that I have to remind Greg when we are out to walk in front of me. The reason is I use him as a guide in crowded places. Being out in public crowded places can be so mentally tiring. Constantly watching for others, watching my feet, anticipating balance issues. Fearing bumping someone or their child. It’s easier for me if I have him in front to kind of guide me through crowds. Also I am more at ease if I know he’s in front so I can reach out for him if I am having balance issues. I said to my mom he always forgets. Now I know he’s trying to do the…
Yesterday someone said to me “You seem to have it together”; I took it as a compliment and moved on. Later I began thinking about what he said and how he came to that conclusion after being with me in a one hour meeting. Maybe it was my appearance? After all I was wearing my favorite dress shirt. All joking aside, how is it that we come to conclusions about people after only having met them for several minutes?
“First impressions are hard to overcome.” Science has proven that human beings quickly evaluate a person and make definitive conclusions about the person based on our initial impression. And that impression stays with us for quite some time until a new pattern emerges and takes its place.
I find this fascinating.
It makes me wonder who out in this world has a false impression of me based on a chance encounter years ago.
When I first started blogging I had no clue what I was doing or what blogging was all about. What I did know was that I wanted to make a difference. I wanted to spread my net far and wide and have thousands of people read my page. I set my goals based on follower numbers, primarily setting my aim on the types of numbers that a few other big blogs had-Harsh Reality, Don Charisma and The Public Blogger.
These blogs had tens of thousands of followers and I wanted to be in their league. I remember telling a few guys I know about my vision and they said I shouldn’t expect much because most blogs fail and very few ever get more than a few hundred followers. I actually had other bloggers tell me the same thing. They never said I was crazy to think big, but I could tell from their tone that they thought I was a newbie speaking like a newbie. Basically they were saying, “Good luck, but it’s probably not going to happen.”
What’s my point? I am exactly where I had hoped I would be at this point. Don’t allow what others say to deter you from your vision. Don’t let other people’s negativity limit you. Don’t allow yourself to live in the box others build for you.
Visionaries are deemed to be crazy by “normal” people. Don’t settle.
I am a hard worker. By this I mean that I develop a plan, analyze my progress, challenge myself daily and put the time in; basically I show up every day to succeed. I know not everyone does this because I watch people’s actions.
Living in the world of sales and marketing affords me the opportunity to watch a lot of business people and compare and contrast. Living in the world of sales also allows me to watch other sales people and compare and contrast what I do against what they do. I have learned that if you aren’t doing it, then one of your competitors is doing it; so get busy!
I see a lot of mediocre habits. I watch people go through the motions every day. I hear people talk as if they want to be the best, but then watch their actions say otherwise.
I’m not so sure people these days want to work hard. I’m not sure people in our age understand what working diligently means. I am convinced that people have tricked themselves into believing they are doing their best when in fact they are operating at 60%.
The vast majority are coasting; flying under the radar. They live in a world below the top 10%, but above the bottom dwelling 10%. Flying under the radar isn’t a compliment. It means you put effort into not being noticed; going undetected. Those living in the world of the 80% do so because they are comfortable there. The expectations are lower when you live in the middle.
The funny thing is those who live in the top 10% never think about it because they are too busy working. And most times those who think they are a top producer are not and make excuses. Those who say “I’m an asset to the company” or “they couldn’t run this place without me” are the ones who have tricked themselves into believing they are a top producer when in fact they are not.
They are living in the realm of “good enough”. I’m not sure what “good enough” is, but it isn’t okay with me.
The real question is where do you stand? Have you tricked yourself into believing you are functioning optimally when in fact you are coasting at about 60% efficiency?
March heralds MS Awareness month. But what does this actually mean? In my life, I’ve found that most people are ‘aware’ of MS; they have a 2nd cousin twice removed who has it, or, as my husband used to think, ‘it is something that affects your mobility… so you end up in a wheelchair’. Heck,Iused to associate MS with wheelchairs… I remember being at Primary School, meeting a man using a wheelchair. He had MS.
But if I was going to raise awareness of MS, there are a few simple things I would like to make other people, those who have no personal knowledge and experience of MS, to be aware of:
Aware…. that MS is a ‘snowflake’ disease. We are all the same (have the same disease, Multiple Sclerosis), but we are all different. We may not all have the samesymptomsand, if we…