Yesterday someone said to me “You seem to have it together”; I took it as a compliment and moved on. Later I began thinking about what he said and how he came to that conclusion after being with me in a one hour meeting. Maybe it was my appearance? After all I was wearing my favorite dress shirt. All joking aside, how is it that we come to conclusions about people after only having met them for several minutes?
“First impressions are hard to overcome.” Science has proven that human beings quickly evaluate a person and make definitive conclusions about the person based on our initial impression. And that impression stays with us for quite some time until a new pattern emerges and takes its place.
I find this fascinating.
It makes me wonder who out in this world has a false impression of me based on a chance encounter years ago.
When I first started blogging I had no clue what I was doing or what blogging was all about. What I did know was that I wanted to make a difference. I wanted to spread my net far and wide and have thousands of people read my page. I set my goals based on follower numbers, primarily setting my aim on the types of numbers that a few other big blogs had-Harsh Reality, Don Charisma and The Public Blogger.
These blogs had tens of thousands of followers and I wanted to be in their league. I remember telling a few guys I know about my vision and they said I shouldn’t expect much because most blogs fail and very few ever get more than a few hundred followers. I actually had other bloggers tell me the same thing. They never said I was crazy to think big, but I could tell from their tone that they thought I was a newbie speaking like a newbie. Basically they were saying, “Good luck, but it’s probably not going to happen.”
What’s my point? I am exactly where I had hoped I would be at this point. Don’t allow what others say to deter you from your vision. Don’t let other people’s negativity limit you. Don’t allow yourself to live in the box others build for you.
Visionaries are deemed to be crazy by “normal” people. Don’t settle.
I am a hard worker. By this I mean that I develop a plan, analyze my progress, challenge myself daily and put the time in; basically I show up every day to succeed. I know not everyone does this because I watch people’s actions.
Living in the world of sales and marketing affords me the opportunity to watch a lot of business people and compare and contrast. Living in the world of sales also allows me to watch other sales people and compare and contrast what I do against what they do. I have learned that if you aren’t doing it, then one of your competitors is doing it; so get busy!
I see a lot of mediocre habits. I watch people go through the motions every day. I hear people talk as if they want to be the best, but then watch their actions say otherwise.
I’m not so sure people these days want to work hard. I’m not sure people in our age understand what working diligently means. I am convinced that people have tricked themselves into believing they are doing their best when in fact they are operating at 60%.
The vast majority are coasting; flying under the radar. They live in a world below the top 10%, but above the bottom dwelling 10%. Flying under the radar isn’t a compliment. It means you put effort into not being noticed; going undetected. Those living in the world of the 80% do so because they are comfortable there. The expectations are lower when you live in the middle.
The funny thing is those who live in the top 10% never think about it because they are too busy working. And most times those who think they are a top producer are not and make excuses. Those who say “I’m an asset to the company” or “they couldn’t run this place without me” are the ones who have tricked themselves into believing they are a top producer when in fact they are not.
They are living in the realm of “good enough”. I’m not sure what “good enough” is, but it isn’t okay with me.
The real question is where do you stand? Have you tricked yourself into believing you are functioning optimally when in fact you are coasting at about 60% efficiency?
Following on from the Loving Yourself post… One of the best ways to start loving yourself is mirror work…it can also be one of the hardest!!
If you have ever read any of Louise Hay’s books, you will know about mirror work, and if you haven’t – I would highly recommend finding one of her books and getting enlightened.
Now if you are already cringing at having to look at yourself in the mirror, be rest assured that although it is going to be tough, you may cry, get angry and want to smash it – you will be one of the ones that benefits the most from this. Trust me!!
If you are apprehensive, perhaps begin by just taking a minute or so to look at yourself in the mirror and not think any judgemental thoughts, just observe. Once you feel semi comfortable with this, you can move on…
A Fox one day spied a beautiful bunch of ripe grapes hanging from a vine trained along the branches of a tree. The grapes seemed ready to burst with juice, and the Fox’s mouth watered as he gazed longingly at them.
The bunch hung from a high branch, and the Fox had to jump for it. The first time he jumped he missed it by a long way. So he walked off a short distance and took a running leap at it, only to fall short once more. Again and again he tried, but in vain.
Now he sat down and looked at the grapes in disgust.
“What a fool I am,” he said. “Here I am wearing myself out to get a bunch of sour grapes that are not worth gaping for.”
And off he walked very, very scornfully.
There are many who pretend to despise and belittle that which is beyond their reach.