The other day I received an email in my inbox in which the person stated I am their favorite personal development blogger. I was incredibly appreciative, of course, and told this reader how grateful I am. The funny thing is I don’t label myself as a personal development blogger or guru. As a matter of fact, I try to distance myself from those types of bloggers.
It is interesting how we see ourselves and how the world sees us. The only thing I try to do is help others who might be struggling in the same ways I struggle. The personal development pages I follow leave out one important thing: being personal. They want to give life tips, but rarely do they ever reveal anything personal about themselves.
I see myself as a guy trying to be a better person who makes a lot of mistakes, but who truly cares. If that makes me a personal development blogger in other’s eyes then I guess I am. The truth is I would rather people simply label me as Danny.
“Passion will move men beyond themselves, beyond their shortcomings, beyond their failures”. – Joseph Cambell To have a passion, is to live life to the fullest. With the energy and the zeal to fully enjoy each day. To wake up and do what you love and what motivates you. But sometimes we can feel like…
Sometimes success isn’t found when you find the right path, but in finding the right person. For me this was definitely the case. I spent many years throwing ideas against the proverbial wall only to experience failure after failure. I lacked focus and ambition. I was a wisher, not a doer. I saw things I wanted, but was not able to construct the path to get to the goal.
All of that changed when I met my wife Evelina. In her I found my focus and successes would soon follow. I cannot explain why this happened except that she believed in me more than I believed in myself and she did not allow me to make excuses.
All those years I was looking for the right thing to do, when all along I needed the right person.
I opened up Facebook this morning to check the Dream Big fan page and the first post I see on my personal page is “I hope today is a better day than yesterday”. Apparently this person had a bad day yesterday and was speaking to the universe in order to gain favor and have a great day today. I wonder, though, if having a good or bad day is up to us or up to happenstance?
I believe we are each the author of our own life. We have the power in our mind to maintain perspective and keep a positive view of things which in turn helps to make every day a better day. To hope for a better day, in my opinion, is all about attitude. You either allow events to impact you so greatly that you take on a bad mood…or you let events run off you like water off a duck’s back. Of course I am talking about daily life stuff, not death, critical injuries, miscarriages, disease diagnoses, etc.
I try to maintain the perspective that I am in control of the way I respond to what happens around me throughout the day. I cannot control what happens but I can control me.
I have written goals. I believe those with written goals achieve more than those who do not. I also know that my friends and associates who have written goals make more money than those who do not. Simply put…people who have a plan are more successful than those who don’t. Some will argue against this statement, but that is not the point of this post. My point is that I need to re-write my goals for my professional life.
I’ve gotten a bit lazy in my professional life. Now this is not to say I am lazy as I probably work harder than most people in sales. But my goals are not to be life everyone else; I want to be elite and elite status requires elite effort. Lately I have noticed my effort has been ordinary and complacent.
So I will spend the next week rethinking where I want to be and how much I want to make. The most important reason I have written goals is to make sure I am comparing myself to my potential and not comparing myself to others. I must aim for the highest bar and lose sight of what others are doing.
I’d be curious to know your thoughts on written goals. Why do you or why don’t you write goals down?
This weekend Evelina and I decided to unplug and disconnect a bit. She was on-call yesterday for work, but other than that slight inconvenience we decided to have some planned time away. For me this was perfectly timed as I needed time to recharge following our vacation. I know that might sound a bit ridiculous considering we returned from vacation on Tuesday, but the truth is the driving time zapped my energy.
I believe it is important to plan time away from technology. It is important to plan time to decompress and do absolutely nothing. Remember, life isn’t about working the hardest all the time; it’s about working the smartest all the time. And sometimes the smart thing to do is…nothing!
It must be something in the stars, the past couple of weeks I’ve talked to a few people that seem to be down in their luck. Some people blame something else, like Mercury retrograde or some other outside force.
I’m more pragmatic than that and I believe that we…
I read a blog today titled “Write Your Own Song”. It was so inspirational and true to my beliefs, I felt the need to share it. I would highly encourage you to read it.
I love to walk in the mornings. I love the outdoors. Being outdoors, breathing in the air, soaking in the sunshine is so healing for me. I especially love walks on the beach. The sound of the ocean is music to my ears. I love it. I listen to music on my walks while I reflect and pray. It’s my personal “me” time. Whether I’m outside or at the gym, music is my lifeline. My escape. I was listening to one of my favorite 80’s band this morning. For those of you that remember The Outfield, you can relate when I say, their music is still awesome today as it was all those years ago.