New Job

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In an effort to reduce stress in my life (for a variety of reasons), I have been looking for a new job and I found one!  I have been praying for a new position.  I had been at my previous position for over five years.  While it’s not the longest time, in today’s job market, it’s still considerable.

I left a company that had HUGE turnover (seasonal workers ‘n all) and went to a company where there is just me and another lady in the office.  The entire company has less than 20 employees.  Talk about a difference!

I do have to learn an entirely new industry, but so far it’s not too bad.  Seems I have the most technological information here.  My boss just learned to check his own emails within the past year.  Yea, I said “wow” too.  I’m so used to chaos, reporting to three or four…

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Let Me Ask You a Question – 3/16/18


Read my post on change and then…Let me ask you a question:

Can you get different results from the same old habits?

Let Me Ask You a Question – 3/15/18


Read my post on comparing yourself to others and then…Let me ask you a question:

What do you think is the most damaging thing about comparing yourself to others?

Why Discipline Is the Key To Success


Why Discipline Is the Key To Success…

There is no other skill more important than discipline.

And so we are all on the same page by what I mean by “discipline”, let’s define it accurately.  Merriam-Webster dictionary defines discipline as: “training that corrects, molds, or perfects the mental faculties or moral character.”  I like to think of discipline as doing something even when you don’t want to do the task.

For instance, a good example of discipline would be going to the gym when your mind is working overtime to convince you to take a day off.  Discipline is when you make the right food choice even when your mind is trying to convince you to get the double chocolate brownie sundae.

There is no skill stronger than discipline when you are trying to reach a goal or find a higher level for yourself.  Discipline is the skill that will allow you to overcome any obstacle.  Discipline is the power behind the goal; the fuel in the tank.

All success is built on discipline.

Life is tough and people will use every opportunity to say I told you so.  Life will try to beat you down.  Life will try to convince you, you are not good enough.  Life will kick you in your arse.  Life will try to rob you of victory.

So why would someone make decisions which help life beat them down even more?  Why help and provide fuel for the negative?

What I try to focus on is adding fuel to the positive.  I work to make better food decisions which keeps my body a little more fit which allows my mind to be even stronger.  I read to learn and edify my knowledge.  I write to express myself artistically.  I work hard at my job to be the best I can be.  I work to practice discipline so that I give myself every opportunity to reach every goal I set.

When you don’t practice discipline and you make poor choices about yourself, then in a huge way you are helping life kick you straight in your butt.  You are helping prove the naysayers right.  Poor decision-making lends support to the same force which is working against you.

Why would anyone do this?

But people do it every single day with their food choices.  They do it every single day when they decide to lie around and watch hours of television.   They do it every day when they decide to cut corners.

Do yourself a favor and stop helping life kick your own arse.  Start practicing discipline and make better choices which benefit you, your mind, your spirit and your body.


Does Smart Phone Focus Make You Selfish?


Does Smart Phone Focus Make You Selfish?

Selfishness exists in the U.S. in one major way: people are absorbed into their smart phones and rarely look up.   Now why do you think I label looking down at a smart phone as selfish?   I label this as selfish because looking down at one’s smart phone makes one less aware of what is going on in the world around them.  At worst it is self-absorbed.

Now I will admit there was a time when my go-to move in public was to kill time by diving into my smart phone or tablet.  I don’t do that any longer or at least I try to not do it the majority of the time.

It is interesting to be out in public and not use your smart phone.  You will notice that the vast majority are walking around while looking down.  Many are watching videos or checking their status on social media, but still, they are looking down and not paying attention to the real world.

I wonder what the long-term effects will be of raising a generation who are obviously addicted to technology?  Will humans turn out to be like the humans in Wall-E?  I not sure what the impact will be, but I am certain it isn’t entirely healthy.

I enjoy people watching.  I enjoy looking up and seeing other humans.

I think people need a reminder to look up.  I have begun to leave my phone at home or in my car when I don’t need it.  I do not place it on the table when eating.  I am beginning a slow disconnect from it when I don’t have to have it on me.  And I feel better when I don’t have it on me at all times.

It feels good to be disconnected if only for a few minutes.


Life Can Be a Roller Coaster, You Best Be Strong…and Prepared!


Life Can Be a Roller Coaster, You Best Be Strong…and Prepared

The last few weeks in the southern U.S. has presented a wild ride as far as weather is concerned.  We had a snow/ice storm which shut the cities down for a week.  That storm was followed by a February that felt more like June with temperatures near 80 degrees!  Now for the last few days the morning temperatures have been in the thirties with afternoon temps in the 60s.

Up and down.  Up and down.  Up and down.

Sometimes I wish I lived in Hawaii where the temperatures are 80 degrees every single day.  It would be so easy to plan each day.  It would be much easier to design a wardrobe!  It just seems like it would be better.

But guess what?!  I don’t live in Hawaii so I’ve got to find a way to deal with the life I have.

Up and down. Up and down.  Up and down.

If there is one thing I’ve learned in my forty-five years on this old rock is that life is going to throw you for a loop.  One day everything might seem fine and then the next…BAM!  Something happens that disrupts the consistency of your life.  You lose a job or your car breaks down or a kid gets sick or your significant other gets sick.  It could be any number of things.

Life is going to ebb and flow.  It is going to rock and roll.

I initially only had “strong” in the title instead of being paired with “prepared”, but I don’t think being strong is the only thing you need to move through life.  I do, however, believe every person must be prepared.  You must see the breaking wave coming and be prepared to withstand it.  It might knock you down in the surf, but bracing for impact must happen or you don’t stand a chance.

So how can you be prepared for life?  Here are a few of my thoughts:

  1. Understand that you only have control over you.  You cannot control what other people say and do, but you are in full control over how you react to them.
  2. Put thoughts and feelings into motion.  Don’t be a talker, be a doer.
  3. Practice personal accountability.  If you do your 100% best, then you will have no regrets.  Don’t allow yourself to make excuses.
  4. Accept change as inevitable and move with change instead of fighting against it.  Sometimes plans must be altered and other times plans must be completed demolished and rebuilt; and there’s nothing wrong with rebuilding.
  5. Focus on finding YOUR fulfillment instead of “happiness” and understand the stark difference between the two.
  6. Understand that tough times are a part of life and try not to invest too much of your emotion into those time.  Just let them be what they are and focus your efforts on maintaining the course.  An old friend would tell me “Let tough times roll off you like water off a duck’s back.”
  7. Don’t get wrapped up with people who are Debbie Downers.  When life lands a right cross the last thing you need is someone in your circle of trust saying “I told you so”.
  8. In all things have character.   If you always do the right thing no matter what you will never lose.

These are just a few of my thoughts about how to be prepared for the ups-and-downs of life.  I think the key is in understanding that these down times are going to happen and one should not overreact when they do.

As the old Persian adage says, “This too shall pass.”