The marriage saga- and why this generation is afraid of it.

Long Island Iced Tea

Let me be honest- the idea of marriage petrifies me and as I sit here typing these words out, my folks are probably busy sending my marriage-worthy-profile-photo to someone else, whose son, I believe would also be as jittery of this development as I am. (For those of you who are curious, I am talking about arranged marriages). This is funny given the fact that we, as girls, have been raised since the beginning of our childhood in a very prepare-your-daughter-for-marriage environment. I bet almost all of you ladies would have heard the sentence ”If you do this, who is going to marry you!”. The only difference is these words actually instilled fear in me back then and these same words evoke a response of “so what” now. So how did a child who wanted to grow up and get married ended up repelling the idea of marriage, HOW?

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Daily Post/Inscrutable

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Inscrutable

I’ve survived the dating world two years now, after a five-year layoff. Dating in my fifties, and after divorce, certainly has its challenges. While every meet up hasn’t led to a relationship (for various reasons), I’ve met a few men that I simply enjoy chatting and spending time with. I believe others cross my path for various reasons. Not always as a love connection, but for whatever the soul needs at that time (no, it’s NEVER the booty call so get your mind out of the gutter!). I’ve learned to slow down and wait for the universe to provide answers. There’s something I need to learn from them, or vice versa.

A male friend and I had a friendly disagreement on a theory developed since his recent return to dating (after 20 years, YIKES!). He believes women decline the opportunity to meet men they’ve decided to pass up (based on…

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What’s Your Favorite….? 01/12/18

Reclaiming HOPE

hands forming heart; What's Your Favorite...? Photo courtesy of Canva; https://reclaiminghope.blog

Happy Friday everyone! I hope you’ve all had a great week. Many thanks to everyone who shared where they get their inspiration for their blogs – it became quite apparent that inspiration really can come from anywhere. Thanks for sharing your tips about keeping track of your ideas too. I’m definitely going to be implementing some of them.

Continuing with this month’s blogging theme, your question for this week is

What’s your favorite way to grow your blog, other than reading and commenting on others’ blogs?

Yeah, I know….I probably took away everyone’s top answer, but I thought it would be good to find out some of the other ways people have found to connect with others and grow their blogs. :o)

Here’s wishing you a wonderful, relaxing weekend!

Blessings,

~Terri

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Being Enlightened

Aria-Bella Rises

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There can be a misconception around being enlightened that I want to clear up.

Being enlightened does not mean that the ego shit we all experience just simply isn’t there anymore. That all of a sudden the crap we used to live like is suddenly gone never to appear again. And we can float around thinking everything and everyone is just wonderful.

If anything, it can mean the opposite, as sometimes when you are on the path of evolving – Ego and all its wonderful buddies pick up their game and try even harder to keep you held back and in the old claws way of being.

The beauty of seeing past that veil though is being able to RECOGNISE that this shit is happening and being able to do something about it.

So many cannot see anything wrong in their way of being, acting, living etc. it is just…

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The failures of friendship

Scribbles by Shiv

Ive often felt like I’ve failed my friends. Infact, i know i have. Ive been the one that chose a relationship over a friendship, I’ve ditched people to move away and on to something else (usually only to return with my tail between my legs!), so its fair to say that through my own poor choices I’ve lost what i once considered good friends.

We naturally change friends as we go through life. We meet like-minded individuals and then our minds grow and develop, sometimes leaving said friendship faltering behind. Its not every time we lose a friendship that we actually feel that its a loss.

And then theres times when your completely taken off guard and all of a sudden those you considered your close friends seem to be withdrawing themselves from your life. The chatting slows, the tone changes, meet ups are few and far between. And no…

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My Cheeky Hans

Second Wind Leisure Perspectives

Cheeky creature of the Sea of Cortez

If you are a blogger and/or photographer, the weekly photo challenges will take you on a roller-coaster ride of themes, for which to submit the appropriate image! Last week we enjoyed serene views of sunsets, peaceful moments and other settings which, as we prepare for the hectic holidays, was a much needed respite.

The goal of this week’s theme Cheeky,according to Michelle Webber at WordPress, is to “find a little irreverence in your world.”

Oh, a bit of fun and humor, huh? I can also use both as I prepare for the holidays!

If you haven’t guessed who this handsome and silly guy is, this is my husband, Hans. In the photo above, he was trying to make some kids traveling with us laugh with his antics!

Cheeky dirftwood Hans thinks he has a bigger smile.

As you can see, Hans has no problem showing his irreverence, or at least…

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The most effective defense against gaslighting.

Lucky Otters Haven

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Narcissists and sociopaths not only try to make you think you are insane, they can literally drive you insane.   They do this most effectively and insidiously through gaslighting, a method of mental manipulation in which you are made to doubt or question reality or told your feelings are invalid.   This occurs on a personal level with narcissistic people and extends today all the way up to the national and political level. It is always extremely damaging.  People who are constantly gaslighted by a narcissist or sociopath often develop PTSD or Complex PTSD (C-PTSD).

Examples of gaslighting in relationships:

“I was joking. Stop being so sensitive.”

“That’s not what I said.” (when they definitely have said it).

“You are imagining things.”

“It never happened.”

Trump gaslights his political rivals, his enemies, and the entire country on a daily basis.   I can’t and won’t attempt to list all the examples, but his…

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Why you get caught up in jealousy (2 min read)

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Hey Friends
Remember I said every emotion carry within itself a hidden message?
See that post here if you’ve not seen already》》Every Emotion carry a hidden message
Jealousy is felt when a person stops focusing on his/her own growth and begins to focus on other’s growth. Feeling of jealousy is sending you a strict message pleading with you to focus on your personal growth.
It’s calling you to ask yourself questions like
Am I being disciplined enough in my studies/prayer life/work?
What are some abilities I really need to develop now?
Which area of my life do I need to major, which do I need to minor?
When good things happen to people, appreciate them and know that it only takes hardwork and time to get there.

Appreciating the good in other people doesn’t always come easily, right? How can we inculcate this habit into ourselves so that jealousy…

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Meet The Crow Reborn!!

The Crow Reborn

“Man, though well-behaved, at best is only a monkey shaved.”
– W. S. Gilbert –

No, I seriously don’t think that quote by Gilbert is a fair one. As much as I like our funny simian cousins, especially in their natural habitat, I don’t believe that monkeys can define friendship the way we do; at least not consciously.

In my book, friendship is a relationship between two or more people who hold mutual affection among them. This mutual affection can be caused by lots of things. It can be caused by the needs to be able to trust someone, the needs to receive affection and sympathy, the needs to share ideas and experiences, and many others. However, there is one that I always think is the most important reason of all, and that’s the needs to be yourself, and thus to be able to express your feelings and make mistakes…

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When Family Doesn’t Deserve You (Displaced Loyalty) – Level Up Stud

Not everyone is worthy of your loyalty. But the day you are born you are dependent on others. So you attach loyalty to your caretakers, whether or not…

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