Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful? The upsides of relinquishing choice, deciding quickly, & lower expectations: Utpal Dholakia Ph.D.(Posted Nov 24, 2015)

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While conducting personal research on qualities to look for when choosing a partner, I fell into this article on arranged marriages. I first learned of this practice as a young adult and immediately dismissed it as ridiculous and empathized with women who didn’t have a voice in choosing their partner and were forced into marriage without love being a part of the equation. Thirty years and a different mindset later, I’ve learned that a major disadvantage is lacking knowledge of what love really is, and choosing partners for the wrong reasons based on skewed value systems. Of course, if the family background is one of dysfunction, like mine, it’s possible you still might do a little better in your choices than your parents based on what you saw growing up. I automatically ruled out the absence of a job and a lifestyle that increased the odds of jail time. The…

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Apperception. (tanka)

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Any given world,
self-aware super structures
claim God’s sweetened breath;
hubris, just zeros and ones
programmed for simulations.

© Nancy Botta, 2018

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[188] Edge of The Circle

Smoke words every day.

Lumps inside my chest
My tongue slips when it talks
Scared of my reflection
Even if its in the dark
Mind is convoluted
My heart ran away
I talk in riddles so
its hard to admit what i feel
So its hard to see what i feel

She ran away for a better music
That plays a smile in her eyes
That stops when she realises
The reality with me that lies
I want a confrontation but
I fear the consequences
I don’t lie but i stay silent
And start a tale so tragic
That loops in circle
Every time i feel i’ve reached its edge

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Song Lyric Sunday | “Dreamin” by Vanessa Williams

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Song Lyric Sunday was created by Helen Vahdati from This Thing Called Life One Word at a Time. For complete rules or to join in the fun, click here.

The theme for Song Lyric Sunday this week is “picture/photograph.”

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Took a walk on the wild side of this week’s theme and came up with two great songs…about dreams – pictures in the mind!

1 – Originally performed by the family group, Guinn, Vanessa Williams recorded Dreamin in 1988  and released it as a single from her debut album, The Right Stuff. The single was Williams’ first top 40 and first number-one hit on the Billboard R&B chart, where it stayed at the top of the chart for two weeks. On the Billboard Hot 100 pop chart, “Dreamin'” peaked at number eight.

2 – Posthumously released as the lead single for her fifth studio album of the same…

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My Week 205: The Nothing Box Explained

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So I’m still on a ship and the wifi is about what you’d expect, so for now, here’s something I worked up before we left. This blog may contain stereotypes, so sue me—if you can find me…

A couple of weeks ago, I referenced something called the “Nothing Box”. I’m not sure how many people know what that is, so I thought I’d provide some background and context:

Every morning, Ken wakes up super early to take the dog out for a walk. When he’s done, he comes back into the bedroom and immediately falls back to sleep. I’m a tolerant person, but I have my limits, and the other morning I announced, “If you want to keep doing this you’ll be sleeping in another room tonight.” And it was a REASONABLE response because A) I’m on my holidays and B) I have no desire to be awakened at 6:30…

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After Eight Moments…

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Life sometimes is cruel

and hearts can suffer
May fate one day bless us
bringing our souls again closer
I don’t mind loneliness
if we can be alone together
Side by side, my hand in yours
sharing the afterlife forever!

If you want to know what After Eight Moments are about, click here.


Description for the visually impaired: Close up on two dead white moths, side by side.

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Short Story/Serial Monday – First Impressions – The Conclusion

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Well, this serial came to a natural end in this week’s installment. I was able to end it to my satisfaction and give it a subtle tie to one of my other serials as well as mix in some call backs to my third Frank Rozzani novel.

I’ve enjoyed writing this serial and look forward to putting it together with other related short stories in a super-sized book.

On a side note, I’ve updated my Author Directory and Serial pages. You can now find all  the authors I’ve interviewed over the past 3 years and the serials that I’ve written, two of which have become books this year.

Please enjoy this last installment of First Impressions.


Couple Holding Hands at Sea Sunset

What in the world was Jones up to? He gave no clues for the four digit code. He had somehow put a virus on an air-gapped server, one that was not directly connected to…

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What is Love?

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Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.- Matthew 22:37.

 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. And love never fails-1Crorinthians 13:4-7

 Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him. This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent…

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Duct Tape and Sex!

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Three months back I entered a new season by accepting a challenging but exciting position which involves a 30 min commute into Phoenix for training purposes only. Once complete, I’ll perform my job less than 10 min from home and that day of celebration is next week! While thrilled about the new stimulation of my brain cells, I’m most excited about the potential to receive 8 hours of sleep on the regular after experience sleep deprivation the last 6 years. Although I have the capacity to think a thought into oblivion, I’ve created a habit of listening to educational CD’s offered by my phenomenal place of worship, Faith Christian Center. I replay the message continuously until it travels from my head and attaches securely to my heart and only then do I go to the next. Some messages take longer to penetrate the barriers of outdated thinking than others, but…

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Sunday Feels — We Are Women

Sunday is here, and the reality that the weekend is over is somewhat sad. However, it’s not all that bad. Last Friday I wrote about how the end of the business week is exciting as its a chance to reflect and be thankful. Well tonight I thought I’d check in to see how everyone’s weekend […]

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