My Daily Observation – The Problem With “Everything Is Bullying”: 2/24/18

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About a year ago I had a conversation with my nephew in which he was talking about being picked on at school or something to that effect.  If I recall, at the time he was having some issues with a kid who he called a bully.  The kid was picking on him a little bit, but it didn’t seem too awful and he even acknowledged it wasn’t all the time and wasn’t too bad.  What I found interesting was the fact that he used the word “bully” to describe being picked on.

Now when I was a younger lad we had some bullies and they were down right dastardly.  My friends and I would avoid their street walking home from school.  We would make sure we were never around this one particular kid ever!  This kid was definitely a bully in every sense of the word.  I saw him hold a broken piece of glass to a kids throat, made another kid kiss a piece of dog poo and he’d dole out noogies like they were Christmas presents.  He was such a great kid!

The conversation with my nephew made me wonder how he would be able to handle my bully in this day-n-age if he considers getting picked on as bullying.

It also got me thinking about modern society and how I think we’ve overdone it a bit.  Now, don’t go blowing up my inbox until I offer this disclaimer: I think it is awesome that schools and parents are so incredibly aware of bullying and are working to create environments where bullying is eliminated.

But how do you identify what is bullying and what is not.

I guess my fear is that if you label everything as bullying then nothing becomes bullying.  It devalues actual bullying; it’s almost a case of crying wolf isn’t it?  Let’s face it, kids are going to pick on one another.  I don’t know why children do it, but they do.  And teasing isn’t necessarily bullying.  But are we diminishing the true act of bullying by teaching kids to label everything as bullying?

At its core bullying is a form of oppression.  It occurs when someone uses their influence or power to make someone who appears weaker to do what they want them to do.  Now I do agree that if someone targets one particular individual over and over and picks on them, that could be considered bullying.  But if it happens infrequently I’m not so sure.

My overall point is that it appears we’ve taken many things to the extreme with modern-day child rearing.  If everything is considered bullying, if everyone gets a trophy, if there are never winners and losers, if every child is awesome and great, then what happens when these kids are dropped out of college or high school right in the middle of the real world?

What happens when these kids realize they aren’t super-duper special?  What happens when they realize life is really hard?  What happens when they realize there are winners and losers in life?  What happens when people at work talk about them behind their back or pick on them?

When we shelter children and hide them from the world we don’t actually teach them anything and then one day life is going to consume and overwhelm them.  Then what do we do with them?

We are already seeing assimilation issues with many millennials.  They are struggling with basic human interaction in the work place.

My fear is that if something isn’t done there’s going to be a whole new generation of kids that simply can’t cope, depression rates will rise as will the suicide rate.

Maybe I have a dooms day view, but I don’t think I’m far off.

Danny

Most People Are Good

Peace from Panic

I believe that if you just go by the nightly news

I can’t get the recent high school shooting in Parkland, FL out of my head. Or the ones at Sandy Hook and Columbine. And Las Vegas. An old college friend of mine was killed in that massacre while watching a country music concert with her daughter.

Today on TV, I watched students and parents whose children were killed in school shootings speak to politicians and President Trump. The emotions are raw. So much anger and unbelievable grief.

I have friends who are teachers. It’s unfathomable to them that they have to discuss being armed in the classroom or think about saving their students from a bullet.

The issue is amazingly complex. Gun control, mental health, the age someone can  purchase a weapon. But this post isn’t political and I won’t go into my beliefs on the Second Amendment.

I just can’t get it out of my mind… How someone can…

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Anxiety Disorder 101 – Mind Elate

Anxiety disorder is such a common mental illness that 1 in 4 people suffer from it just in the UK alone (Bupa UK). It is important to note that anxiety disorder is a generalised term given to a large spectrum of different disorders that fall under the anxiety category; all of which I will discuss… Read More Anxiety Disorder 101

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The Most Important College Course Ever: Happiness 101

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Last night I was making dinner and half listening to the NBC Nightly News. I rushed around the kitchen, browning the chicken, dicing the red rose potatoes, and making a salad, when I heard a story that literally stopped me in my tracks.

The reporter was talking about the increasing mental health problems on college campuses. More than ever before, students are anxious, depressed, and overwhelmed.

There’s a course at Yale that teaches kids how to be happy. Ingenious.

Psychology professor Laurie Santos developed the class. She teaches students how to live a more satisfying life.

“Psychology and the Good Life” is the most popular course in Yale’s 316-year history. Nearly one-fourth of Yale undergraduates students are enrolled.

That statistic speaks volumes.

Millennials, also known as “the anxious generation,” desperately want to know how to be happier, less stressed, and more fulfilled.

“Psychology and the Good Life” focuses on:

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Why choose an Airbnb instead of a Hotel

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airbnb                                                                                        I don’t know about you, but in my opinion, hotels lack warmth! When I travel I want to be able to interact, learn a culture, be part of a history and also attach a certain emotion to a particular place! Now, I want you to read again the last phrase and realize if a hotel or a house provides that certain feeling for you?

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In 2015 I discovered this site called Airbnb, which you may have heard of!Basically, it offers different types of vacation rentals ranging from the simplest villa or apartment to a treehouse or a cave house.I…

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Bell Let’s Talk Day

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Being Lydia!

Today, January 31, 2018, is the Annual “Bell Let’s Talk” Day to bring awareness to Mental Health issues.

Bell Canada, a major communications company in our country started this event to bring awareness and raise money for a cause that is very dear to my heart – Mental Illness. They pay 5 cents for every time their official video (below) is viewed, tweeted, texted, or shared on Facebook. Their website contains stories, tips and encouragement to keep the conversation going.

Last year I devoted the 10 days leading up to and including the actual event day, writing my experiences and several guest posts. However, this year there just seemed to be too much going on and before I knew it time had flown by.

If you have followed my blog for anything length of time you will know two things about me.

  1. I am very open and honest about how…

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Monday Minstrel: Flying Horse!

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I would like to introduce you to the FLYING horse. Not a ‘Pegasus’ Dear Readers!   A flying dressage horse.   Let’s start with examining the canter. In dressage we want a clear three beat canter. In some other disciplines they do not want the horse to be airborne and are happy with a four beat canter. But in dressage it must be three beat. The fourth beat is silent because the horse is in the air. It is in that airborne moment that the horse can change leads. The lead is either the right or the left depending on which of the horse’s front legs are “leading” in the canter. When the horse is in the air that is the moment it can change leads.  It is called a flying change and in dressage we want lots of flying in that change. The rider asks for the flying change one stride…

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Bookish Stuff

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Well I am sure that many of you are aware that today is Winnie- the -Pooh Day, and I have enjoyed reading many posts about it. All things Pooh is ultimately a celebration of friendship, and there is not much more I can say about it that has not already been said…. just give someone you care about a big bear hug in honor of Pooh! : )

It is also Thesaurus Day, and, sticking with a book theme, we chose a few books with variations of “female” in the title.

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Thesaurus Day marks the birthday of Peter Mark Roget, the British lexicographer and doctor who first wrote Roget’s Thesaurus.

So the books we have read with variations of female in the title”

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This new collection by New York writer Jacob M. Appel features two brothers fighting over a collection of iron lungs, a elderly suburbanite campaigns for the…

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Have you seen this? Meet Charles Eugster ~ 98 year old athlete.

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As we continue on into this new year, I am determined to get myself into better shape. I have the nutrition side of it down, but fitness and exercise are a HUGE sticking point for me. I’ll be blunt…

I HATE TO EXERCISE!

But, I know just how crucial exercise is to our overall health, so I need to find some inspiration. This past weekend, I shared a post with you about Ernestine Shephard, the world’s oldest female body builder. Today, I would like to introduce you to Charles Eugster, a 98 year old athlete, and considered the fittest pensioner on the planet. Born on July 26, 1919 in London, U.K.,  he was active in rowing, boxing and skiing in his youth.

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But, as  he grew older, he became less active. So, in his mid-60’s, he began skiing and rowing again. For 20 years, he reigned over senior…

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