About once per week I’ll get an email asking me how I maintain such a positive attitude. And I get enough of these emails to make me believe people view me as being a positive person, although, I don’t view myself as a positive person. The truth is I haven’t always been so positive.
In 2007 I began working for Dick’s Sporting Goods as a PGA Professional. My job was to manage the golf shop staff, keep the shop stocked with the appropriate types of merchandise, inventory and maintain customer service levels. For anyone who has worked retail, this short story should register with you.
I worked that job and dealt with customers throughout the store; there were good days and there were really bad days. And as the years moved forward the really bad days began to outnumber the good days 10 to 1. Customers in retail are vicious. They complain constantly. They drop trash on the floors. They spill things and use merchandise to cover up the spill. They leave used condoms in the fitting rooms. They make messes in the bathrooms that you could never imagine (especially the women’s room!). They scream, yell and blame the staff for ruining their child’s Christmas.
The list goes on and on.
Dealing with the public turned me into a person who didn’t want to be around people outside of work. So I began to resent other humans. I began to hate being around other people. I saw the worst in humanity and expected people to be awful. I became a negative person.
Then came 2013 and my retail career ended. Unfortunately, my negative attitude did not. It would take me another year or more to eventually purge myself of those negative tendencies and find “Danny’ again. It was such hard work. Every day I had to focus on finding the good in people and expecting good things to happen. I had to go through a complete revolution of my mind to exorcise the negative demons.
It was a long fight, but it was worth it. I no longer maintain that nasty, negative attitude and I am happy now that people email me asking how I stay so positive. It’s a great reminder to me that people can change if they want to change.
Nearly every person I know is a planner and has a planner. If not for these organizational whizzes, there would be no need for businesses that allow you to customize your own planners each year. I must admit that I marvel at…
There is a truth that exists in this world–no one owes you anything. It doesn’t matter if you are different, odd, weird, pretty, ugly, successful, smart, dumb, etc. Life owes you zero, nada, nothing, zilch. You can pout and complain all you want, but it isn’t going to change your circumstances.
You can hope, wish and beg.
Ultimately you have a decision to make. Will you be the hunter or will you be the hunted? Are you a wisher or are you a doer? And make no mistake about it, it is a decision. Trust me when I say that there have been people far worse off than most of my readers who have dug themselves out of less than nothing to reach their goals.
Which choice do you make today? Do you get outside today and walk even though your legs scream at you to stop? Do you choose to eat some vegetables today instead of fast food? Do you choose to eliminate pay television today in order to reduce your debt? Do you choose to read the Power of Habit today instead of watching television?
This is really a chain of thoughts… Danny from Dream Big Dream Often inspired Momma, and Momma inspired me, with the post below…
Like most people, I am prompt to judge. I have been working very hard at stopping to reflect and be aware of my free judgement toward people I come across, for some time now. I try to put aside the easy profiling, and somehow imagine the people’s life in a less obvious way than what’s just there in front of my eyes…
I work on that, because I want to be a better person, and because I have been judged my fair deal of times in the past. Momma’s words brought me years back on one particular occasion, when I just wanted to stop, turn around, and set an idiot straight, but didn’t because I had no energy to do so at the time.
I believe it is important to take stock in how one acts. It is easy to continue on as you have always done, oblivious to how it impacts those around you. Some will even justify their actions with statements like “that’s just the way I am”.
For me, that is not good enough and I expect more of myself than that.
The wise person doesn’t continue on as they always have. The wise person evaluates their actions and changes when they realize they need to change.