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As I sat on the beach this morning and listened to the waves crash I couldn’t help but think of how far I’ve come since I started this blog. There was a time when I was experiencing tremendous internal turmoil. Basically, my insides were a raging dumpster fire. I was so lost. Sitting there I remembered this song that was once my anthem:
“Spirit Of A Storm” – Kenny Chesney
A restlessness that I can’t seem to tame
Thunder and lightning follow everywhere I go
There’s a spirit of a storm in my soul.
I can’t find a way to calm the sea
Maybe I’ll find someday the waters aren’t so rushed
Right now they’ve got the best of me
Since I had real peace of mind
So I’m just going to sit right here
In this old chair till this storm rolls by.
Maybe I won’t ever change
So I’m just going to sit right here
In this old chair and just soak up the rain.
There’s a spirit of a storm in my soul
Every time I think it’s gone away
Dark clouds gather, that old wind begins to blow
The sun’s going to shine someday I hope
There’s a spirit of a storm in my soul, in my soul.
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Have you ever thought about how it is that you allow yourself to react to events in your life? I’m mostly referring to your responses; especially to small things. For instance, I find myself overreacting to simple things like dropping something and having to bend over to pick it up. I give a sigh and will internally say “Good gracious” as if it were such a big deal. I will miss a green light in traffic and respond as if it is the most important thing. I’ll come downstairs at home and have a small internal complaint about dishes being in the sink.
The funny thing is bending down to pick up that pen cost me 3 seconds of time and the loading of the dishwasher takes up around 10 seconds. But you would think it was the end of the world by my reactions.
Do you have mini-overreactions? Do you think these mini-overreactions add up of the course of time? I think they add up over time to create unnecessary stress. And because of this belief I also think it is important to recognize these moments and learn to control your reactions, even in the small things.
I’ll be curious to read your comments.
This past weekend Evelina and I went to the beach house and it was just in the knick of time. I had not realized how stressed I had become primarily due to the pressure I put on myself to succeed at the newspaper. One of my faults is to carry my stress internally instead of purging that junk. I have been saying for years that I need to find a way to deal with stress better, but have not taken any action so I guess I don’t put much value in changing.
I found myself constantly taking in deep breathes trying to get my body to release the stressed feeling. I hate it because I simply cannot get it out and it feels like knots in my neck and shoulders. Does that make any sense at all?
Anyone out in the blogosphere dealing with stress by internalizing? Have you found any methods to replace this bad habit? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
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I know so many people who portray themselves as happy on Facebook, that I can see are not very happy at all. People are keeping up with the Joneses, piling up credit card debt, feeling the pressure of impending college tuition, wondering how in the world did I get in this much debt and how am I going to get out of this? They work jobs they abhor and live lives that are severely disorganized.
My challenge has always been to push people to challenge themselves, to break the cycle of a life that is designing them vs them designing their life. And as I type this I realize some might read and say most people’s lives aren’t that bad; and my response is you have not been paying attention. It might be the case that not all families encapsulate my description above, but many families deal with a few. I believe we have been conditioned to accept debt as a reality, when in fact it is a defeatist mentality.
We must realize that our life is our responsibility and it is possible for us to make positive changes.
I have talked often in the past about debt and I have wondered myself why so many of my thoughts regarding living out dreams come back to debt. And I guess the answer is that in conversations with people I have heard the money excuse used all too often. And when I hear the money excuse used I immediately wonder how much cash they waste each month or how they use their money.
I personally have two resources that I guard as sacred: my time and my money. The money situation is very sensitive for lots of individuals because they feel a sense of embarrassment when light is shined on their inability to manage their personal life. If you speak to someone who works in the financial business they will tell you how defensive people get when their debt is criticized (and by criticize I mean it in the truest definition of the word, not pointing out flaws or making fun of).
I believe it is important for you to understand one fact: your debt could be getting in the way of you living a fulfilled life! We live in a society that tells us we must live in a certain type of house, drive a certain type of car, send our kids to a top school, we must work a certain type of job, we must associate with a certain type of people. And if you do not you are not successful. And you must obtain these things at any cost. So get yourself some credit cards, acquire a line of credit and go buy things so that people think you are successful and these things will make you happy and fulfilled.
And in the end what you have attained is a life that is fake, that you don’t own because you owe others for it, and a mountain of debt that you carry around like a 300 pound gorilla each and every day. Your debt restricts your ability to move out of a job that makes you unhappy, it restricts your ability to move out of a city or town that you do not like, it restricts your ability to see the world around you and it sets an image of the type of life your children expect to have for themselves.
For your information, Warren Buffett still lives in a house in Nebraska that he bought 50 years ago and drives an old Buick, both of which he paid off many years ago.
Do not wait for tomorrow, do it today! And contrary to what some might say Starbucks is not necessary. Car payments are not necessary. Shopping at the most expensive grocery stores is not necessary. Eating out is not necessary. Gym memberships are not necessary. Boats & motorcycles are not necessary. Cable television is not necessary. And these are just a few of the things I see people spending money on that they can neither afford nor sustain.
Your attitude towards buying things should always be: if you do not have the cash to buy, do not buy it. I will guarantee you if you eliminate all unnecessary spending each month you will have approximately $500 to pay on debt. My advice would be to pay down the smallest credit card first and gain some positive forward momentum. Then choose the second debt item and take the $500 plus whatever you were paying on the first credit card and pay that on the second credit card. You duplicate this formula as many times as it takes to get you out of debt and if you commit three to five years to this you will be 100% debt free. There are many methods or plans that one can use so be sure to educate yourself as to the best method for your situation.
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Many of the happiest people I know have extremely low debt. And by extremely low debt I mean they have an affordable mortgage, no car payment, and zero credit card debt.
Successful people do not stumble upon being successful. Their lives are purposely designed to give themselves the best opportunity possible to find success. And it is time for you to take control of your life and design it to give yourself the best opportunity possible to be successful. The first step is acknowledging that your life is your responsibility.
Hope and Relevance provides us sound advice on keeping life in perspective and not overreacting to mole hills!
I emailed a good friend telling her I was freaking out over a job interview I have later this week. In my defense, it’s an intimidating interview: seven people, three of them attorneys, over three-and-a-half hours. I’ve been in intimidating interview situations before, worse, in fact. But not in a while, and I’ve been feeling overwhelmed trying to prepare.
Do you know what she said to me? “Relax and breathe.”
She was right. I tend to over-stress about things. But then I realized that it’s my way of preparing. I get freaked out, which leads me to prepare as much as I can for whatever I am facing. While it’s (probably) possible to over-prepare, in my book it isn’t, so I made a list of all the things I plan to do to get ready. And as I check things off my list, I feel better, so that by the…
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Blissfully Informed Hippie Chick is on my go-to list for blogs I read on a regular basis. I love to read blogs where the author is not afraid to express an opinion. I love this blog post on stress!
I read an article today about stress, and the effects it can have on your body. I realized that I identified with nearly all 50 symptoms of chronic stress. Wow. I’ve been told so many times in the last year that I need to take care of myself. I usually respond with a half-hearted laugh and a response somewhere along the lines of, “yeah, when?” But I get it now. This stress is killing me, literally, and interfering with me being the kind of
parent person I want to be.
So I made a few changes today after reading this:
1) Focus more on breathing. I apparently take shallow breaths and actually hold my breath a lot!
2) Prioritize! Can I get it done today? Do I have to get it done today? Can it wait until tomorrow without serious repercussions? If yes, then let it go! (This was…
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Meet My Crazy Life!!
I have been trying to think of a good way to explain what goes on in my head when I go out. I think I did a pretty good job, judging from the comments, reblogs and likes in trying to explain depression. You can read that here. So here we go with social anxiety.
A woman, who doesn’t suffer from social anxiety goes to the shops. she leaves the house. She is walking, on the way down thoughts such as what she is going to do for dinner, what games she might play when he son comes home from nursery, what she is going to watch tonight, maybe even planning a little trip for next year.
she enters the shop, goes and finds what she needs, and goes and pays,
She leaves, goes to cross over the road, and casually listens to the two ladies behind her.
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