Danny’s World: I’m Not A Personal Development Blogger or Guru-I’m Just Me

Danny's iphone 022The other day I received an email in my inbox in which the person stated I am their favorite personal development blogger.  I was incredibly appreciative, of course, and told this reader how grateful I am.  The funny thing is I don’t label myself as a personal development blogger or guru.  As a matter of fact, I try to distance myself from those types of bloggers.

It is interesting how we see ourselves and how the world sees us.  The only thing I try to do is help others who might be struggling in the same ways I struggle. The personal development pages I follow leave out one important thing: being personal.  They want to give life tips, but rarely do they ever reveal anything personal about themselves.

I see myself as a guy trying to be a better person who makes a lot of mistakes, but who truly cares.  If that makes me a personal development blogger in other’s eyes then I guess I am.  The truth is I would rather people simply label me as Danny.

Cog Fog and Brain Zaps?!

Tripping Through Treacle

I continue to be off work for the time being, awaiting my Access to Workreport regarding adaptations and aids that may support me to remain in work. All this time off has done the world of good for my MS, I have to say. Unfortunately, I can’t say that my symptoms have magically disappeared, but Ihavefound them a lot easier to manage, as I have had the time to rest, sleep and stretch as much as my body needs to. Whether it is because I have had more time on my hands to think, or because they have been changing, I am unsure, but I have been much more aware of my symptoms over recent months.

I have writtenbeforeabout how my MS affects me, both physically and psychologically. Over the past year, since taking up blogging, I have had the opportunity to make new ‘MS…

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Danny’s World: Sometimes It’s Not About Finding the Right Path, But About Finding the Right Person

Danny's iphone 009Sometimes success isn’t found when you find the right path, but in finding the right person.  For me this was definitely the case.  I spent many years throwing ideas against the proverbial wall only to experience failure after failure.  I lacked focus and ambition.  I was a wisher, not a doer.  I saw things I wanted, but was not able to construct the path to get to the goal.

 

All of that changed when I met my wife Evelina.  In her I found my focus and successes would soon follow.  I cannot explain why this happened except that she believed in me more than I believed in myself and she did not allow me to make excuses.

All those years I was looking for the right thing to do, when all along I needed the right person.

Revelation–Daily Prompt

Fearless

revelationI was sixty years old when I received the diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis. About two years prior to that, I began experiencing some mobility and hand weakness problems. The doctor I was seeing did not see the need for further testing. When I changed insurance companies in January 2012, I scheduled an appointment with a new physical therapist. She told me that she couldn’t help me until I had my hip looked at by an orthopedist. Eventually, I received notice that I needed my hip replaced. So, silly me, I thought all my troubles would be over.

After the hip replacement in October 2012, all of the leg, foot (foot drop), and hand weakness remained. Several MRIs later showed that I had MS. That came on January 4, 2013. It was a huge revelation to me and my world spun off into a new trajectory. I was shocked, relieved, devastated…

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Life Update: Symptoms, Work, Home

Tripping Through Treacle

It’s been a couple of weeks since my last post… I seem to have lost a bit of my blogging ‘mojo’, so to speak.  This is ironic, as I have a bit more time at the moment to blog due to being medically signed off work (as my Multiple Sclerosis symptoms are making it a struggle).  I’ve been dealing for some time now with high levels of fatigue and mobility difficulties (it is exhausting constantly feeling like you have a drag a heavy lump around, when it is actually just your leg).  Somewhat unsurprisingly I guess, being off work has not lessened my MS symptoms… it has just meant that I am able to adjust my lifestyle and plan my days more to accommodate them.  For me, this means taking a daily nap  – I can guarantee that this will make me feel somewhat better and more awake for…

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10 Reasons I’m Rocking Motherhood

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Originally posted on MSnubutterflies:
When I saw that Jen from Tripping Through Treacle had tagged me in her post about Rocking Motherhood I was a little surprised to be honest. Maybe even wondering what I could add to such a wonderful tag.…

My A – Z Codependency Challenge – D

Diary of a Recovering Codependent

Denial, Delusional, Deceit, Debacle 

Oh good grief! When I started this little A-Z challenge I don’t think I really thought it through well. I’m laughing at myself now because it’s only day 4 and who wants to admit these damn words?

Delusional: having false or unrealistic beliefs or opinions – Yep, I had false and unrealistic beliefs of my life. I believed my life was good for the most part. I believed I was truly helping people who needed me. I believed someone loved me when they told me they loved me. I believed I was put here to help others regardless of what it did to me. I believed my needs, wants, hurts, disappointments, even successes were not as important as yours. Oh good Lord was I delusional!

Denial: disbelief in the existence or reality of a thing – Yep, I lived in denial. I did not believe how…

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thursday was good, got some good news, and helped a friend, also got new books too

Therapy Bits

todays been good. my pa came this morning. as usual she was early, i was barely awake when she arrived. that was ok though, i’m used to her being early by now. if she was late i’d be shocked. i had breakfast, i kinda didnt stick to my healthy foods today, i had sausage and hash browns that needed to be used up so i got her to cook those for me. then i got in the shower while she started cleaning. she vacumed, mopped the floors, made the bed, cleaned the kitchen, etc. all while i was showering, getting my hair dried etc. lol we make a great team.
we chatted then for a while. we mostly chatted about dogs. she is a huge dog lover and well so am i and we just chatted about our dogs. then i got her to go to the store for me…

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Danny’s World: A Few Blogging Tips

Danny's iphone 022It has been quite some time since I posted anything about blogging tips so I thought I would take a few moments and answer some common blogging questions I get via email. Here goes:

Tags – More Isn’t Better!

Some of you don’t know that WordPress limits tags to 15 including a category designation.  If you use 16+ tags it’s like using zero.  Don’t use more than 15.

I think I write good content, but why do people not seem to want to engage with my page?

There is no hard, fast rule here.  I have 2 basic principles based on other pages I have followed to help you with this: 1. post content which appeals to the masses, or 2. write specific content which appeals to a specific group of people of which there are considerable numbers.  I’m not sure where I fall in this paradigm, but I believe I would be more along the lines of option 1.  With that said I follow a page called Lucky Otter’s Haven which appeals to people dealing with narcissistic relationships.  The content is incredibly informative and Otter gets a ton of views each month.   Regardless, your content still must be helpful, informative and high-quality.  

How do I grow quickly?

For those of you who do not want to wait you must be willing to reach in to the change purse.  The route to fast growth is to operate a self-hosted blog, use Google Adwords, practice incredible SEO tactics and advertise on higher volume blogs.  Then, connect your page to every possible social media site and be active.  Then (and probably more important than any of the previous stuff) you must produce relevant, helpful, quality content.

Why don’t you visit my page more often?

I get this question a couple times per month.  The truth of the matter is I try to get to every blogger’s page who follows me.  But even if I could read 100 blogs per day, it would still take me over 3 months to read every page.  This brings me to a tip on engaging with your readers…Each day I visit 50 pages and I select those pages directly from my notifications.  I recommend you use this tactic as well.  After all, it is a good practice to engage deeply with those who are choosing to comment and like your posts. Then engage with those bloggers who you follow in Reader.  If you use these 2 tactics you should be able to cover a lot of ground and do so efficiently.

What can I do if people are not commenting and liking my posts?

There are many reasons why we blog.  Some do so to vent and purge.  Others want to make an impact on the world.  Some people want to display their poetry.  Etc, etc, etc.  But we are all here to have others look at our stuff.  If this were not the case then we could simply keep a journal in a notebook instead of displaying it for the world to see.  If you want people to comment and like your content, then you need to write content worthy of receiving a comment or like.  I think a lot of people miss this simple point: people are under zero obligation to read anything a blogger writes.  They are under zero obligation to engage or care.  The blogger must give people a reason to care; a reason to engage.  You must be unique.  You must be profound. You must be informative.  You must be engaging.  You must be creative.  If you are not one or all of these things then you are…….INVISIBLE.  Getting people to your page is easy. Keeping them coming back is not.  Getting them to engage is nearly impossible in a crowded digital world.

 

Last, but not least, remember this one point…

…blogging is a verb.  Blogging is all about interaction.  When I first started blogging I thought I would write great content, hit publish and people would flock to my page to read my wonderful views on the world.  The truth is blogging is action.  In order to get comments, you must comment.  In order to get LIKEs, you must first LIKE.  In order to get interaction, you must first interact.  If you sit back and wait, you will spend your whole life waiting.  Get active.

 

I hope this helps a little.  If you have any questions for me you can always contact me through the contact page here.  Have a great Tuesday!!

Another Hospital Trip, Another Purple Dress

Being Lydia!

h048017_13Daily Prompt – Better

I am late to the party on this daily prompt word (it is from Saturday). However, when I finally checked it I couldn’t resist as it is the perfect word on so many levels.

  1. On Friday at 2:20 pm (exactly 2 hours late), I was wheeled into the operating room for my hernia repair. The on-again-off-again-on-again surgery was finally happening. Since I only had around 48 hours notice, I was feeling better about it – not so much time to stress out.
  2. Much of the stress I was feeling about moving also melted away with the surgery. I can’t lift for 2-6 weeks and we are going to be in our new place two weeks from today (Saturday). I have packed about all I can and now I just leave it in the capable hands of Hubby, friends and, of course, God.
  3. I was able to handle…

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