Finding a Therapist: What You Need to Know

Leon's Existential Cafe

I’ve decided to write a blog post in the hope of helping people to find a psychotherapist that fits them and what they’re seeking in treatment. The question I get asked most by prospective patients is: how do I know which therapists are good and which aren’t? I, often, encourage patients to ask, and to continue to ask, these types of questions and to afford themselves the chance to explore a potential therapist’s assessment of their ailments, as well as her or his treatment recommendations. Too often, patients have complained that they hadn’t been able to what they were searching for in treatment. Rather than feedback, they received reframing. Instead of collaboration, they had to guess at what their therapist was thinking by means of interpreting head gestures and silence. In writing this post, my intention is to outline several questions prospective patients can ask themselves and their therapists to…

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A Big Announcement Coming In 2018

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I have something I will be talking about in 2018 that is incredibly personal; probably more personal than any topic I’ve ever discussed on my page.  It relates to something that has revealed itself in my therapy and I’m not even sure how I’m going to tackle it.  I know it is a big deal for me based solely on the fact that I have found myself reluctant to even discuss it at all and, based on the fact that I talk more openly on Dream Big than anywhere else in my life,  I have major reservations.

I have cried more this past week than I have over any one thing.  It has rocked me to my core and has created a lot of uncertainty in my spirit and mind; honestly I feel myself going into a bit of depression.  The only reason I don’t start writing about it now is I don’t think I am through the “processing” aspect of the realization.  In time I’ll begin writing about it and I can see Dream Big taking a slight turn in focus for quite some time.

For now I’m going to leave it alone, I simply wanted to let everyone know what is going on and what is in store for the future.  I hope all of you have a great New Year and a productive beginning to 2018!!

Your friend,

Danny

Did You Plan To Fail?

 

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Nearly every person I know is a planner and has a planner. If not for these organizational whizzes, there would be no need for businesses that allow you to customize your own planners each year. I must admit that I marvel at…

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The Staircase Effect

This morning as I was praying about this post, I was reminded of my first position as a school leader.  I worked in a comprehensive high school with lots of stairs. Each set of stairs had a color, so it was really important to know…

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Welcome Dream Big Partner: Better Twogether!

I am pleased to welcome the latest blogger to become a Dream Big Partner: BetterTwogether:

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Here is an excerpt from the Better Twogethe

Michelle is a writer, Certified Life Coach, and a Master Teacher with 25 years of experience as a facilitator of learning and a school leader. From as far back as her young adult years, Michelle can recall having a passion for helping others — whether serving her local church and community or teaching in various schools throughout the United States, her desire to share her knowledge with others has been her life’s mission.

At the heart of who she is lies her values: relationships, balance, honesty, and commitment. These core values have served her well and are evident to all who meet her. According to Michelle, strong relationships are vital to successfully navigating life’s journey, and at the foundation is a relationship with God. Once you know him and live a life that’s pleasing to him, all other kinships or partnerships are sweeter as a result.

Equally important to Michelle is balance (or equilibrium). A life that is balanced is a fruitful one. The right mix of hard work, play time, reflection, and alone time is difficult to achieve at times, but that mix is necessary for living your best life. When your life is unbalanced, the result is stress, anxiety, or even physical pain. Michelle believes that finding the right mix to achieve balance is essential to living your best life now.

Honesty is the best policy or so the saying goes. Scripture also tells us that the truth shall set you free. Michelle is fair and honest with her clients because it’s what God expects from her, and it’s necessary in building strong relationships. A partnership built on half-truths or lies is in imminent danger of crumbling, but a relationship that is built on honesty can weather any storm.

Last on the list but certainly not least is commitment. Michelle’s commitment to loving and serving God is her top priority. She espouses the work ethic described in Colossians 3:23 — “Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” A commitment like this guarantees honesty, balance, and a strong relationship.

Allow Coach Michelle to walk alongside you and help you move from where you are to where you want to go. Drop her a line at michellemalone@bettertwogether.org  to schedule your free 30-minute Discovery Call or Book It Now.

You can find the Better Twogether logo in my sidebar and on the Partners' Page at the top of my website!  When you visit be sure to tell her Danny sent ya!

 

therapy break continues, days 3 and 4

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days 3 and 4 have been a lot harder than the first two days. proly cuz we didnt sleep and we were so dissociative. losing lotsa time, just being sad and hurting and crying a lot.
alla us kids miss eileen so much. it realy hurts our heart.
we been tryin ta make her cards and write letters to her but nothins comin out.
do anybody ever get like that? like yur words get stuck, lost even? and you dont know how to fix that?
we are going to try ta have a good weekend. and not to miss her too much.
that will be hard tho i think.
we brought her rose scent to respite with us for some comfort. and we might get to buy the perfume she wears tomorrow when we go shopping. it will double because dr. barry wears it too so we can think of…

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Danny’s World: Shoulder Is Great!

Danny's mugMy shoulder held up well hitting golf balls.  Come to find out the issues I experienced were due to tightness from lack of use, not the pain from the rotator tear.  In physical therapy we have spent a couple hours per session stretching the shoulder muscles, especially the movements involved with reaching above my head.  The results are amazing.  I can now get a coffee cup out of the cupboard, put on my belt and use my left arm to drive the car.  I am glad I didn't have surgery!

one week to go

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one week until i see eileen again. i cant wait. it seems so long since I’ve seen her.
really I know its only been 2 weeks, but it seems longer. I think partly thats because I never saw dr. Barry last week either due to my damn ptsd flaring up.
At least this coming week I will have a phone check in with Eileen on Thursday. I think she’s already back from her holiday. I’m tempted to text her but I probably wont. But I’m really tempted to just to ask her if she’s ok and safe, to put my mind at ease.
I might just email her instead. It seems less intrusive. i dont want to bother her while she might be still on holiday.
I’m proud of myself and of us as a system for getting through these past two weeks. It wasnt easy. But we did it…

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thursday was good, got some good news, and helped a friend, also got new books too

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todays been good. my pa came this morning. as usual she was early, i was barely awake when she arrived. that was ok though, i’m used to her being early by now. if she was late i’d be shocked. i had breakfast, i kinda didnt stick to my healthy foods today, i had sausage and hash browns that needed to be used up so i got her to cook those for me. then i got in the shower while she started cleaning. she vacumed, mopped the floors, made the bed, cleaned the kitchen, etc. all while i was showering, getting my hair dried etc. lol we make a great team.
we chatted then for a while. we mostly chatted about dogs. she is a huge dog lover and well so am i and we just chatted about our dogs. then i got her to go to the store for me…

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I HATE YOU, DONT LEAVE ME?

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THERAPY TODAY WAS A DISASTER WE TALKED ABOUT THE UPCOMING BREAK AND I GOT SO ANGRY WITH EILEEN BECAUSE I DONT WANT HER TO GO ON HOLIDAY NEXT WEEK I FEEL LIKE WE HAVENT REALLY PREPARED FOR IT I TOLD HER I THOUGHT IT WASNT FAIR THAT SHE’D ONLY HAD A WEEK AT EASTER SO WHY DID SHE NEED ANOTHER SO SOON? SHE KEPT SAYING IT WAS OK FOR ME TO BE ANGRY AT HER THAT SHE WOULD WALK THIS JOURNEY WITH ME, THAT ONLY MADE ME MADDER. I TOLD HER HOW MUCH THE KIDS ARE STRUGGLING, SHE ONLY SAID ME AND CAROL ANNE AND THE OLDER INSIDERS WOULD WE TRY TO SUPPORT THEM WHILE SHE WAS AWAY SO THEY WOULD NOT BE ON THEIR OWN? OK, BUT WHAT ABOUT US? WE’RE FEELING LIKE WE’RE ON OUR OWN TOO? SHE KEPT TRYING TO GET ME TO TALK ABOUT MY UNDERLYING…

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