Your Habits Are Like Seeds You Plant In the Ground

Danny's iphone 022I’m not sure if you are aware or not, but your habits are like seeds you plant in the ground, which one day will produce fruit.  For those with better habits the fruit produced will be better health, more positive friends, more joy, more success, happiness, positivity, humility, love, patience, compassion, kindness etc.  For those who have bad habits the fruit can be found in the form of negativity, anger, stress, envy, selfishness, violence and joylessness just to name a few.

If you want joy you have to sow joy in your life.  You have to eat, sleep, breathe joy.  If you don’t practice joy and develop habits of being joyful, then you will not understand what it is to be joyful.  There is no magic wand to suddenly make you full of joy; you must practice it.

If you want more success professionally then you must practice the habits that will give you the best chance to be successful.  If you want more positive, supportive friends then you must first practice being positive and supportive so you understand what characteristics to look for in potential friends.

If you want better health then you must begin to practice the habits that will allow you to gain better health.  You must begin to get 7+ hours of sleep.  You must begin to eat more vegetables.  You must begin to exercise.  You must avoid low-quality foods.  You must begin drinking more water and fewer sodas.

All of these instances I have mentioned have particular habits associated with them and those habits are the seeds being sown.  The results (i.e. better health, more joy, more patience, more compassion, etc.) are the fruits.  And the reason the fruits are important is because wise people are judging you based on the fruits of your life; your boss, friends, family are all watching your habits.  People are looking at your actions not your words.

One instance that immediately comes to my mind is the friend who continues to talk (complain) to me about something in their life that upsets them or something they are unhappy with.  Most recently it was a friend who struggles with their health.  I’ve listened for years to this person complain about how their body hurts-my feet hurt, my legs burn, my hips are killing me.  Guess what I constantly see on their Facebook feed?  Fast food photos, drinking sodas, funnel cakes, eating tons of processed foods, etc.  I have watched this person’s actions (seed), which have produced a body which is breaking down (fruit).  They are getting the result they should.  They complain, but are not willing to begin sowing different types of seeds.

I will not be this type of person.

The gatekeepers of life will judge you based on the types of fruit you are producing, which is directly attributed to the types of habits you are sowing.

Maybe you aren’t getting what you want out of life because you are planting bad seed which is producing bitter fruit?

 

 

Rockets of Desire!

This is Insane Roots!!

Insane Roots

I am so excited! I have been exploring the teachings of Abraham Hicks for a few months now and I finally think I am getting the hang of it. I was making it a bit too difficult at first (of ‘course I was), by actually changing every negative thought I had. I realize now that by focusing so much attention to negative behavior, I was only attracting more struggles with my negative patterns. I now realize that it is more about paying attention to your feelings and what they are telling you about any individual moment in time. It’s about recognizing what you don’t want by being aware of the source of the feelings connected to those things.

Over and over again Abraham has said “By knowing what we don’t want, we can better understand what it is that we do want”.

The main goal in all of this is…

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Time Keeps on Slipping Into the Future

I have been spending a lot of time lately inside my own head.  I do this occasionally when I have a lot of important things going on in my life; I tend to be an over-thinker.  I realize being an over-thinker can drive those around me absolutely bonkers, but the positive side is that it sends me into deep periods of introspection which, often times, produce some of my best stuff.1

My thoughts take me back to the beginning of my senior year of high school and how that moment in time seems like yesterday.  For me high school was not yesterday, but 23 years ago!
My mom has explained to me that life will speed up even more once Evelina and I have a kid so I try to take mental snapshots of life now, but for the life of me it still flies past.  For instance, I cannot believe it is November already as it seems like I have been blogging for a few months, not nearly a year!

Most high schoolers are focused on what types of social clubs to join, which classes they need to graduate, grades needed to get into their university of choice, etc.  They have their entire lives ahead of them.  Some already know the subject they will choose for their major.  They simply have no clue how fast time will move.

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Ole Danny boy in high school circa 1990. Look at all that hair…sigh. 😦

Before they realize they will be taking photos with friends on graduation day.  Then off to college, beginning a career, getting married, buying a house, having kids and then…they will find themselves sitting in a chair at 43, writing a blog and wondering where all the time went.

Nostalgia is a double-edged sword.  It is nice to look back and reminisce about past events and recall how much younger people looked (and slimmer! lol ) and how much easier life seemed back then.

Looking back can also reflect back a life lived full of regret, poor decision-making, missed opportunities and failures.  And it is in this light that some see their life.
Always know that life offers second chances.  Meaning, as long as you have breath in your lungs you have time.  And having time means you have an opportunity.  Some of you need to spend serious time in introspection and determine what it is that is holding you back from doing something that you have put off doing for years.  Do you need to finish a degree?  Do you need to take back your health?  Do you need to tackle a mountain of credit card debt?  Do you need to declutter your house?  Is it time to start that new hobby?

Take one step today toward your goal.  Then take another step tomorrow.  Then another the day after.  Your next realization will be goal achievement and a self-satisfaction that money cannot buy.

I am right and you are wrong

This is Mick Canning a new blog I am following. Mick adds to our discussion today about being open-minded with his post I Am Right and You Are Wrong. Wonderful perspective!

Mick Canning

I am right and you are wrong (regardless of whatever you are saying).

We are all human; we are all fallible and none of us are all-knowing. Most of us are beset by doubts, and we hold a number of conflicting opinions (which we usually try to pretend aren’t there). Is this a bad thing? Quite the opposite, I think.

We can only really grow in the company of people who challenge our beliefs. We can only really attain empathy for others when we understand where they are coming from. That is why it is, for example, so important to understand the reasons that terrorists carry out atrocities. Understanding is not the same as condoning. Understanding someone’s point of view, understanding why they hold that point of view; what events have shaped their lives, can only help us to a better understanding of how to deal with any conflict that…

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Disagreement Isn’t Closed Minded

I love this post by Dave Dubay. Disagreement doesn’t mean closed-minded and listening to another point of view does not mean one has to sacrifice their ideology. Great post!

The Painted Porch

Years ago a coworker told me that she and her fiancé visited his Lutheran pastor because they were to be married in his church. The pastor asked her if she believed in Christ. She said no, she was raised Christian but is now a Unitarian-Universalist (most UUs believe in God but not the Trinity).

The pastor asked her why she was so closed minded. And that pissed her off. Not believing what he believes doesn’t make her closed minded, she told me. She respected his beliefs, and in the process of rejecting Christianity she had taken the time to educate herself about Christian belief.

Too often, when someone tells you that you don’t understand or that you’re not being open minded, what they really mean is that they want you to agree with them. But it’s entirely possible to understand a situation yet come to a different conclusion.

Religion and politics are where charges…

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Becoming a More Positive Person

Reflect and Refresh gives some great insight and tips to changing your mindset to be more positive. The last sentence deals with something I have said before: volunteering will change your mindset.

Reflect & Refresh

Happy young man looking up to the sky holding both hands in the

Sometimes life will serve us all with conditions that may seem impossible to think positively about, but this is almost rarely the case.

I know this because within three months of each other, both of my childhood dogs and my music teacher, who was also a close family friend, passed away.

However, in the midst of school resuming, I had no time to devote to truly getting over these things, and depression and anxiety soon dominated my life.

I began to see a therapist because I knew I wasn’t feeling up to par, and she’s taught me how to change my negative thought patterns and to put things into perspective.

We could all stand to be more positive, so here are some tips for doing just that the next time you start to see a little too much of Holden Caulfield in yourself.

#1. Observe.

The first step in becoming a more…

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Attitude

I am of the opinion that attitude is a choice. I have this opinion because I was once a negative thinker. After nearly a year of changing my mindset I now consider myself an optimist. AND I am a better person for having done so.
Danny

Joe Egan

Question: How does attitude affect the success or failure of a construction project?

Answer: Optimism and pessimism are attitudes you are free to choose and to embrace. Whether for good or bad, your thoughts make you who you are. They direct your self-fulfilling prophecies. Positive or negative self-talk becomes reinforced into the paradigm that you have determined and then produces evidence to support your belief. If you think you will have a bad project, then you are definitely right. If you think you will have a good project, you’re probably right.

Point: Attitude is a matter of personal choice. It is the key that either opens you to success or locks you out.

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Education: Need for Critical Thinking

The author supports the need for critical thinking with statistics that I find alarming. I am going to do some fact checking, but they pass my eye test, meaning they seem reasonable in light of today’s youth that struggle to make change if the computer fails. Critical thinking is essential in helping to form opinions.

99 Funny and Thought Provoking Random Thoughts

Sir Bentley

Sir Bentley

Today I am taking a break from my usual programming and relaxing.  No serious posts or deep thoughts.  No challenges.  Just chill and relax.

http://www.gettoknowu.com/LifeLessons/Thought_Provoking_Questions_01.php

Time Keeps on Slipping Into the Future

“I have been spending a lot of time lately inside my own head.  I do this occasionally when I have a lot of important things going on in my life; I tend to be an over-thinker.  I realize being an over-thinker can drive those around me absolutely bonkers, but the positive side is that it sends me into deep periods of introspection which, often times, produce some of my best stuff.

Senior Pic: 1990

Senior Pic: 1990

As kids are heading back to school my thoughts take me back to beginning my senior year of high school and how that moment in time seems like yesterday.  But for me high school was not yesterday, but 23 years ago.

Time is a concept that simply baffles my mind and sends me into a philosophical spiral!

My mom has explained to me that life will speed up even more once Evelina and I have a kid so I try to take mental snapshots of life now, but for the life of me it still flies past.  For instance, I cannot believe it is August already as it seems like I have been blogging for only a few months not nine!

The kids are headed back to class this month and they look at life through naïve, ideal eyes.  Most are focused on what types of social clubs to join, which classes they need to graduate, grades needed to get into their university of choice, etc.  They literally have their entire lives ahead of them.  Some already know the subject they will choose for their major.  They simply have no clue how fast time will move.

Before they realize they will be taking photos with friends on graduation day.  Then off to college, beginning a career, getting married, buying a house, having kids and then…they will find themselves sitting in a chair at 43, writing a blog and wondering where all the time went.

Nostalgia is a double-edged sword.  It is nice to look back and reminisce about past events and recall how much younger

Circa 1992.  Look at all that hair!!

Circa 1992. Look at all that hair!!

people looked (and slimmer! lol ) and how much easier life seemed back then.

Looking back can also reflect back a life lived full of regret, poor decision-making, missed opportunities and failures.  And it is in this light that some see their life.

Always know that life offers second chances.  Meaning, as long as you have breath in your lungs you have time.  And having time means you have an opportunity.  Some of you need to spend serious time in introspection and determine what it is that is holding you back from doing something that you have put off doing for years.  Do you need to finish a degree?  Do you need to take back you health?  Do you need to tackle a mountain of credit card debt?  Do you need to declutter your house?

Take one step today toward your goal.  Then take another step tomorrow.  Then another the day after.  Your next realization will be goal achievement and a self-satisfaction that money cannot buy.

Procrastination steals your time and some of us don’t have as much remaining as others.

I have determined that I will no longer stress out trying to convince every person to take action; one person will, while 99 will not.  Which are you?

Danny