All You Have To Do Is Give Your Best Effort

Danny's iphone 022One of the early lessons we all learn is we will not always come out on top.  Your team is not always going to win.  Your best efforts are not always good enough to earn the first place trophy.   Your hard work is not always going to result in a promotion.  But that shouldn't deter each of us from giving our absolute best effort.

I am extremely competitive when it comes to succeeding and use other people's success to drive me to do better.  I have determined to be satisfied with failing as long as I know I gave my best effort.  I'm not sure I can ask more of myself than that.  The question I ask myself is 'did you give your all?' and if the answer is 'yes' then I am satisfied.  If my answer is 'no' then I return to the drawing board and figure out how I could have performed better.

Ultimately the only person who will know if you gave your all is you.  Identify your weaknesses, improve upon your effort and move forward.  That's what I try to do; that's all I can do.

Danny’s World: Old Boy Is Worn Out

Yesterday I helped a couple coworkers in Shelby which meant I spent the day walking around the uptown area speaking with business owners.  It was hot and incredibly humid and we were out walking for 5 hours or so.  When I got home last night all I wanted to do was eat dinner and veg; which I did!

I also slept in this morning until 7 am to give my body some recovery time.  Living with MS demands that I pay close attention to the temple.  When it says it is time to sleep, I sleep.  I hope all of you out in the blogosphere are preparing your minds to have a great day!

…by the way, how do you like the mug???

Danny’s World: Back In the Swing of Things

img_1546As I have said, the first day back from a getaway is tough.  I slept past my alarm this morning and it felt great.   Being at the beach was fantastic, but I must admit it was nice to sleep in my own bed last night.  I hope you have an getaway coming up soon to provide some relaxation or adventure!

Danny’s World: I Got A Feelin’, That Today’s Gonna Be A Good Day…

I love my neighborhood early in the morning.  The birds are chirping and the animals are getting things done before the heat hits in the afternoon.  The moon is still out and the humidity is low.  Oh, and did I mention we are leaving for the beach tomorrow night?!  I think it’s going to be a good day!

Here Are 10 Things I Stopped Doing That Made Me Happier

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Danny's iphone 022A few years back I made some drastic changes.  In 2013 I decided enough-was-enough and I went through a revolution of my mind and habits.  Here are a few of the things that I stopped doing which made me a happier person:

  1. I stopped blaming others for my underachieving.
  2. I stopped complaining
  3. I stopped comparing myself to others
  4. I stopped trying to be right all the time
  5. I stopped talking to myself like I was a villain
  6. I stopped allowing myself to make excuses
  7. I stopped watching television
  8. I stopped allowing my mind to be limited
  9. I stopped wishing for change
  10. I stopped waiting on life to happen for me

IF IT’S CHANGE YOU WANT, THEN CHANGE YOU MUST

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It must be something in the stars, the past couple of weeks I’ve talked to a few people that seem to be down in their luck. Some people blame something else, like …

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Danny’s World: One of the Characters From My Golfing Past

A while back I wrote a post called Life Lessons Learned at an Old Golf Course in which I talked about my youth growing up on a old, abused golf course called Sunset Hills.  That

Image result for sunset hills golf course charlotte ncpost is still one of my favorites and you should take a few minutes to read.  Anyway, one of the cast of characters was a guy who actually worked for one of our sister courses Paradise Valley Golf Course.

Paradise Valley was a short, 9-hole course located in the north part of Charlotte on what is now a shopping center.  It was a fun track and it was right across the street from UNC-Charlotte where I attended college so you can imagine my break between classes involved some golf.  And almost every time I went over to Paradise Valley or the range a familiar face was waiting: Robert Earl Maybin, Sr.  Or as I always called him…Bob.

Bob was a funny guy and to say he was a character is the understatement of the century. There isn’t a week goes by that I don’t think back on many things Bob would say.  At this time I was around 19 or so and Bob would have been in his mid-30s.  He was a portly fellow who wore a trimmed beard and smoked a pipe.  My memories of him involved him giving me advice or telling me a story while packing that pipe.  And the aroma was great.  I even remember the type of tobacco he smoked which was Captain Black!

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I worked with Bob until I left the golf course in 1998 and Bob would finally leave go back to selling cars.  Bob and I kept in touch and actually became golfing buddies.  We would play everywhere together.  I was a PGA Professional at that time so I could get us on some of the top tracks in North Carolina. We would ride, play, gamble and laugh; mostly me laughing at him.  Looking back on his stories, I don’t think Bob was trying to be funny, but I laughed anyway.  He was a good friend.

Bob eventually moved to Myrtle Beach which disrupted our golf, but I would still visit him every time I went to Cherry Grove Beach, which was only 30 minutes or so from his house.  We would meet at a little southern cooking joint called Magnolia on 26th and catch up.  And it was as if we had never missed a beat.

In 2010 I tried to get in touch with Bob via text but I never got a response.  I was afraid I knew why he wasn’t responding.  About 6 months of texting and I found out from a mutual friend that Bob had passed away.  It was tough to think that Bob had died and I wasn’t there at his funeral.  I’m not sure why he died, but suspect it was a heart attack.

My memories of Bob are vivid.  I wax nostalgic thinking back to those days at Sunset Hills gambling with him, learning about life and losing money.  I smile when I hear his voice in my memories and it makes me 20 years old again to envision seeing him unloading his clubs from the trunk of his Firebird as I pull up in a golf cart to meet him.

I miss my friend and always will.  RIP Robert Earl Maybin, Sr.  You meant more to me than I ever told you and I hope you knew it.

Essential Oils 101

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It probably hasn’t taken you long to realize I’m a huge essential oils enthusiast. I’m not quite sure why it took me so long to commit to a chemical-free life or why I didn’t start my oily journey sooner, but I’m sure if I had started earlier it wouldn’t have led me to where I am today.

It scares me the number of toxic chemicals that are still approved for use in commercial products in the Unites States that have been banned in other parts of the world. Endocrine disruptors, hormone disruptors, reproductive disruptors, cancer and more have all been linked to chemicals that are commonly found in the cupboards of our homes. Less than a quarter of the chemicals in thousands of common household products have been subjected to a full safety investigation. Products that we use on ourselves, our kids, our pets every day. Make-up. Sunscreen. Lotion. Insect…

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All Their Faces…

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All the people
all their faces
shapes and sizes
ways of speaking
expressing
outward appearances
part in hair
earrings, tattoos
fashion of dress
styles and colors
smells and sounds

All the people
everyone else
I’ve met over time
each and every person
throughout
my entire life
every waking moment
every breath taken
every thought
everything,

How can you be
so different
so unique
think so differently
see me like no others
do

How can you be
someone who makes
someone who says
someone who can’t

can’t seem to live
without me?

How can you….

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a trusting submission

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Suffering is a harsh and brutal word; and it’s a part of our world in more ways than one. It has many faces- the agonizing, or the one that makes your body quiver with pain and mind spin in an endless maze, unsure of how to go on; the subtle, or the quiet one that thrives in hidden corners, slowly unraveling your heart; the sudden, or that moment of utter disbelief, where it takes quite an effort to figure out reality, and where your breath went.

How do you handle those seconds, and how do you explain them to someone else-

One of the hardest questions to answer about God’s character, is the copious amount of pain flourishing in this life. Most would say, there is no magic answer; that there is no “key” to living that makes it all go away. I will be one that disagrees.

As I…

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