In the Arena!
I think a lot.
One of the things I like most about the marketing industry is I am able to speak to and watch businesses thrive or die. This is important for my job because it allows me to watch the actions of business owners which brings about the death of that business, which I can then take and use to help my current clients. If I can help them avoid the pitfalls I witness in others then I have done my job.
And then of course I am able to look at the parallels of business owners and life in general. One of the mentalities I have observed that almost all of my thriving business owners possess is the willingness to challenge their own beliefs. They are quick to recognize that they do not know everything and are slow to make assumptions. They are willing to consider the possibility that they could be wrong or their thinking could be flawed. And because of this mentality they are able to make decisions which take into consideration many angles and many perspectives. To assume you know is death. I was once told by a successful Charlotte business man that the most important question I could ever constantly ask myself is “Could I be wrong?”
I get a lot of comments each week and I get even more emails about posts I create; especially those relating to positive thinking. I find it ironic that those who express opinions contrary to mine on being more positive are themselves somewhat negative people; and I know this because they tell me they are. I also know this because positive people generally agree with my view, therefore it is a safe assumption that someone arguing against one of my posts is by default more inclined to negativity or less likely to be a positive thinker.
So I want to lay down a challenge for my readers.
My thinking goes this route: if you are opposed to more positive inclinations (meaning you are reading this and already beginning to construct your anti-comment), is it possible that your reluctance to begin developing a more positive attitude is contributing negatively to your life? Are you willing to challenge your own beliefs? Are you willing to consider that you could be wrong? Are you willing to consider for a moment that your mental inclination does in fact have a profound impact on your life?
For those of you who do not believe in the power and benefits of a positive outlook I am here to inform you there is hope. I was once just like you. I was once an incredibly negative person and still battle complaining, getting pissed off at the simplest of things and seeing life through a negative lens. I was the realist. I was the naysayer. I did not believe. I was a procrastinator. And I definitely did not buy the belief that I could change my life by simply seeing the world through rose-colored glasses…and I was wrong.
One day about three years ago it dawned on me that I had to make a change. I looked at my life and what I had achieved and realized if I wanted more, then I had to figure out what was going wrong. I wasn’t happy in my profession. I felt like an underachiever compared to my own expectations. And my research on habits led me to realize that I had created the box in which I felt trapped. I had created my own mental cage.
The only way I could escape this cage was to go through a revolution of the mind; a coup d’etat if you will. It was at this time that I began researching the habits of successful people and began to insert these habits into my life. I began to take better care of my body. I began to read more history. I stopped watching television. I started learning how to become a better listener. I stopped eating too much junk food. I started something new and exciting (this blog!!). In short, I completely revamped my existence and in turn I completely reshaped my view of the world.
None of this would have been possible if I had allowed myself to assume I had it all figured out; if I allowed myself to remain in that same old broken mindset. I can tell from the comments I get that many of you are in the same boat I was in 3 years ago. I hope some of you take a long hard look at yourself and challenge your thinking. I mean take a long hard look at yourself, your thinking, and then ask yourself what has your mentality produced in your life. If the answer is disappointment, failed relationships, hardship, unhappiness, loneliness, financial hardship, etc. then isn’t it about time you challenge your current belief system and adopt one that begins to produce better results? If you continue to hit your thumb with a hammer and it hurts and bleeds, why would you continue to hit your thumb over and over and over and over? Wouldn’t it make more sense to stop hitting your thumb?
Challenge your thinking. Weigh the results you’ve gotten thus far compared to your mindset. If you like the results then keep on keeping on. If you don’t, then maybe it is time for your own mental revolution. Remember this, if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you will keep getting what you’ve always gotten. If you want something different, then you will have to do something different.
Just something to think about on a Friday morning.
We must remain open-minded and be willing to listen to other views. The world is a big place and we are but one very small part, with a very small world view.
I have lived in different places all around the world. I have met people coming from different Counties. I have traveled to an indefinite number of different Cities. I have been eager to learn about different cultures. I have always wanted to discover different ways of thinking.
And yet, here I am, feeling exposed and realizing how narrow my point of view has always been. I guess this is the effect Berlin has on people. With its extreme unconventionality, its exaggerated extravagance, its limitless freedom and its unbalanced personality. And when you are left with no boundaries. When there seem to be no more right and wrong. When all that is bad starts to be considered good. When all that you have learned seems to have no meaning. That is when you will finally start to understand what this city is all about. And in that moment you will realize that you…
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Take the time to see the other side of the story. There’s a big world out there!
(feel free to comment, but please be aware to give the original blogger their kudos as well. Danny)
I have been thinking about something I wrote a week or so ago about an exercise a college professor had us do to gain perspective on a topic: argue the opposite of your belief. So I thought I would write an article on why it is not necessary to do anything that relates to self-improvement or personal development. I am also not going to edit this, it will be honest and freely associated. I have no clue how this is going to turn out, but here goes anyway:
Too many people think it is necessary to continue to work on themselves. Why can’t we just appreciate where we are, who we are and what we are in the moment. So many people are focused on the future that they completely miss the present. What if, while planning this super awesome future, you died and missed out on life right here, right now? I am reminded of the John Lennon line “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
Plus, shouldn’t we accept ourselves for who we are. If I’m a little overweight and that’s the way I want to be, then so be it. If I don’t make a lot of money, but I am content, then so be it. If I don’t like or have no desire to exercise then so be it. Life isn’t always about me trying to be a greater version of myself. What if I like me for exactly who I am, exactly the way I am?
Companies are constantly attacking our self-confidence with advertising, inferring that we are not good enough, smart enough, happy enough, pretty enough until we buy their product. Then we will be happy. Then we will be pretty. Then we will have tons of friends and be popular.
Then you have websites encouraging us to “Do These 5 Things in Order to Achieve Happiness.” If I spent my time online reading all the advice on how to make me happy I would’ve missed out on my trip to the balloon festival. Now that is living life. I saw friends I haven’t seen in over a year, breathed in some incredible fall air and got to see hundreds of balloons in the air!
But back to the “me being me” talk. Why is it necessary for me to change? Why should I have to make more money? Why do I need to listen to anyone that says I am not okay just the way I am? Isn’t life going to happen regardless? And I will change in time so why put so much effort into it?
Why do I have to have this elaborate plan? Why do people keep telling me I have to have goals? I don’t have to do anything. What if I just want to work my job, hang out with my friends and be okay with that?
I have zero desire to conquer the world. All I want to do is enjoy my little bit of peace and quiet on this little rock as it spins around the universe. If people around me would just accept me for who I am it would make my life a whole lot less dramatic AND a whole lot easier.
I am okay with my spot in life. I like my friends. I like my job. I like where I live. So why can’t everyone else be okay with it also?
How would you counter this viewpoint if this was debate class?
Hands down my favorite post about forming opinions and being open to information in order to form an opinion. YOU MUST READ THIS!! Btw, I had no idea there was a thing called Zoob’s Law.
I encourage everyone to find truth. We will never grow if we close our minds to truth. It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it. Many people are not ready to receive truth. We are all at different stages of learning. When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.
This brings up an interesting fact. Some people might be looking for a solution to a health problem or another concern they are having. When they are introduced to a solution they don’t recognize it as such, and easily discount the new concept as crazy or absurd.
I like Zoob’s Law. It goes like this, “Generally the non-informed can be expected to oppose whatever he does not understand, hiding his own ignorance by a degree of aggressive descent roughly equal to his ignorance. The greater the ignorance, the greater the…
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Being able to develop one’s own opinion begins with knowing who we are as a person. What is important? What’s not important to us? That kind of thing. Join Amy Lou Blogs on her journey…
Well now, isn’t that the most complicated question? At some point or another everyone comes to a point where they find themselves thinking about who they are, who they grew up to be. I’m certainly not the person I thought that I would be when I was younger. I was so sure that my life would go down a certain path but when I got there it just was not what I expected.
So who am I now? I’m opinionated, more so than most people. I’m sarcastic beyond all sense and reason. I like things my own way, but I’ve learned to compromise. I’m honest (most of the time) and nothing makes me angry like being lied to. I’m protective of the people who matter to me and I would do anything for them. Not all my personality traits are good but that’s okay. It’s okay to just be unapologetically…
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In attempting to find a reblog to continue our talk about opinions, I found this eloquent diatribe on Scott’s World (all of his points I agree with AND curse about daily). He deals with traffic, but also is a microcosm of society. We’ve been discussing informed and uninformed opinions and how a person’s life experiences influence his or her ability to form well thought out and informed opinions. Sometimes people stop abruptly to let other’s into traffic. Why?? I never do that because I was taught better. But so do and will continue to do so. And some in society will have opinions on a certain politician because they like his dog. I guess we have to live with this fact.
“So Here’s the Thing…” is a recurring column here on Scott’s World in which I address a particular topic that is either a source of frustration for myself, a controversial subject in society, or a current event on which I have a strong opinion. Let me stress again that if you won’t be able to handle my occasionally-polarizing commentary then you should probably skip these posts. Today’s column is on:
It’d be easy for me to fill pages and pages with the things that bother us all about traffic and specifically other drivers. I’m not going to do that. We’ve all been through those things a thousand times already when we complain to our friends or family about some idiot who cut us off on the way home from the office yesterday. Instead I’d simply like to clear up a few things for everyone, because I honestly feel that…
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There is a difference between having an opinion and being opinionated! This post points out this fact.
In short, no.
Some opinions are based on reading and research.
Some opinions are pulled from . . . um . . . the air.
I have a young, liberal friend who reads like a fiend and watches CSPAN as a hobby. He has often fact-checked my posts. Where he has proven me wrong, I have either changed them or apologized.
He is a valuable friend, even though our politics do not agree.
I know many other liberals, and conservatives, whose opinions have not been proven to be worth a plugged nickel. They only repeat what they hear others say, without inserting any of their own gray matter into the process. That is a tragedy. God gave us our brains so we could use them to think. I am not talking about mentally challenged people here. I am talking about mentally lazy people.
I have come to a decision…
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A positive attitude goes a long way in life!!
Last Friday night, my husband and I took some very good friends to the local “Balloon Glow,” which is an event held the night before the Great Forest Park Balloon Race. Everyone gathers in the park to watch the giant hot-air balloons being blown up, and after it gets dark, the balloons light up randomly, a few seconds at a time. Every so often, a loud whistle blows as a signal that all the balloons are going to be lit up at the same time. It’s an incredibly beautiful sight.
My husband and I have been to this event several times, but this was the first year that this couple joined us, and they were very excited to see the balloons all lit up. They brought their camera, and we came early to beat the crowds and make sure we didn’t miss anything. We even paid extra to attend a…
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